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Post by AAG on Jul 19, 2008 23:41:37 GMT
I have been looking around the forum, other forums, and just noticed in life in general that people these days are dating without the intention of getting married any soon.
I just wanted to know what the whole purpose of dating without the intention of getting married was?
Most of us are young, school/university/career focussed but some are dating when they aren't even ready for marriage.
I personally wouldn't date a person if I didn't see the "whole" forever thing with them.
So was wondering why people do it?
Why go through all of that? Waste your time, effort, love, energy and emotions on something that you aren't even expecting to last? Do these people not think of their families? What would happen if their parents found out?
It wouldn't be nice to know your daughter/son is dating and doesn't even want to marry the person.
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Post by Ghost... on Jul 19, 2008 23:50:58 GMT
^^
i agree.
i dont do that stuff.
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Post by princess on Jul 19, 2008 23:56:13 GMT
my bf is more of a best friend than a lover....n he helps me stay on focus...or i would be all talking to guys who like me...n wit all dat comes heartbreak....cheating...not being able to focus on school...and stuff like dat...so iono...
n ya i dont really trust females that much...always instigating and gossiping bout other ppl....guys dont do dat stuff as much....
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Post by AAG on Jul 20, 2008 0:00:30 GMT
You can have male friends without dating them. I have REALLY close male friends who I haven't/don't date.
I also have amazing female friends.
I still don't see the use of dating without the intention of marriage.
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Post by princess on Jul 20, 2008 0:04:40 GMT
well aag im sorry to say a lot of ppl do it...so dont feel bad that they do....
n why u do u think dat ur parents never want u talking or seeing guys....."even if der JUST friends...they will ALWAYS...SOMETIMES....end up being something more..."
n ya ive been friends wit my bf for like a year n something before we started going out....n even now we have been together like 10 months....sooo yaaay for me ....
cuz im glad i didnt end up wit a player...
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Post by princess on Jul 20, 2008 0:05:54 GMT
n ya i have friends my best freinds.....which are ma sis...dis one punjabi girl...dis one paki one...n my bf
da rest friends to me are known as hi bye friends....just see dem around at partys or at skool for 5 mins....
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Post by AAG on Jul 20, 2008 0:09:47 GMT
Honestly, my parents know me well, my mother is like a best friend and she knows EVERYTHING about me.
They know I have male friends, my mother has met my closest friends and knows they are nothing more.
I know people date, and I NEVER said I felt bad about it. I just wondered why they dated without the intention of getting married, that's all.
You can have male friends without it being something more, I have had first hand experience of it.
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Post by princess on Jul 20, 2008 0:15:44 GMT
umm i guess... bt my parents would kill me if i even say a guys name in da house... let alone bring one over.... n ya ma parents noe what kind of guy i like ..cuz i hint to dem all da time when we watch tv...even my moms like...oh ya hes cute....
bt ya back on topic.....if u really think bout....not that many couples think about that at all...marriage is something u wait to see if ur relationship is evovling or not...den u make those kind of decisions....so ya dats ur answer....
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Post by AAG on Jul 20, 2008 0:17:44 GMT
Thank you for your opinion
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Post by londonLIONjatt on Jul 20, 2008 13:40:02 GMT
i don't "date" don;t want a gf, i want to get to knwo girls in a more respectable manner. If i wanna get serious i'll marrya girl, not make her my gf, i don't like that. many guys just make gfs cos girls can easily be mnade gfs these days, ones that r too much into bollywood romance and that. so many guys just date cos they playas, and its easy way to get girlds, and don;t need to get married. Me personally, i wouldn;t see the need to get married if i had a gf, cos i already got a partner then, marriage just becomes a show or ritual without real meaning. so IF i did date, i would probably do it for fun, cos i see dating girls for pre-marital stuff, and marriage material girls as different. I don;t want girls for pre-marriage stuff, so dating not my thing, i'd rather be a playa than date haha. nah but serious i just wanna get married now, and not be associated with dating and gfs. I come from a respectable jatt family, dating wouldn;t be good for my/our reputation. anyway this dating stuff has just made it a playas paradise for guys, so enjoy guys, it only gets better for playas
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Post by pilot on Jul 21, 2008 16:34:08 GMT
^^^ Yes, only players have GF's because I've never seen an Asian couple get married to someone they've dated. All guys want to do is get abit of action before their marriage gets arranged by their parents. Brilliant points, keep it up! [sarcasm]I personally wouldn't date a person if I didn't see the whole forever thing with them. Dude, my views are just like yours.
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Post by 5abikuri10 on Jul 21, 2008 18:00:26 GMT
i think dating is good, cuz it gives u an idea of wut kind of guy ur interested when it comes to marriage or jus long term relationships or something like that so ur not confused and all on wut kind of guy to look for
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Post by thaanedaar on Jul 22, 2008 9:02:50 GMT
Dude, my views are just like yours. Hey dude same here. Why the heck get into mess if it ain't permanent.But alas morals are degrading and how fast.
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Post by londonLIONjatt on Jul 22, 2008 20:03:21 GMT
^^^ Yes, only players have GF's because I've never seen an Asian couple get married to someone they've dated. All guys want to do is get abit of action before their marriage gets arranged by their parents. Brilliant points, keep it up! [sarcasm]well thats nice, because back in the days when asians were new to uk, the asian mundeh made gfs just cos they were playas, they saw girls like goris easy to get, thats why they made em. ;D
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Post by londonLIONjatt on Jul 22, 2008 20:05:23 GMT
i think dating is good, cuz it gives u an idea of wut kind of guy ur interested when it comes to marriage or jus long term relationships or something like that so ur not confused and all on wut kind of guy to look for yeh have a long term realtionship with a girl, haha then dump her and marry a good one afterwards
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Post by 5abikuri10 on Jul 22, 2008 20:28:45 GMT
lol
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Post by Ghost... on Jul 22, 2008 20:30:08 GMT
i think dating is good, cuz it gives u an idea of wut kind of guy ur interested when it comes to marriage or jus long term relationships or something like that so ur not confused and all on wut kind of guy to look for yeh have a long term realtionship with a girl, haha then dump her and marry a good one afterwards guys who do that are stupid. burn in hell the lot of u.
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Post by londonLIONjatt on Jul 22, 2008 22:36:37 GMT
you knows it all pre-marital fun shun
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Post by londonLIONjatt on Jul 22, 2008 22:37:51 GMT
yeh have a long term realtionship with a girl, haha then dump her and marry a good one afterwards guys who do that are stupid. burn in hell the lot of u. but i also think its stupied for girls who fall for those kinda guys under false promises, they should be taught to stay away from guys like that and become more marital minded lol
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Post by Ghost... on Jul 22, 2008 22:51:00 GMT
yeah its true.
so why the "lol" at the end?
that's why no one takes you seriously,
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Post by amriksingh on Jul 22, 2008 22:54:54 GMT
full of S#!t.
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Post by amlijattuk on Jul 23, 2008 5:33:18 GMT
I have been looking around the forum, other forums, and just noticed in life in general that people these days are dating without the intention of getting married any soon. . To marry is to halve your rights and double your duties. I don't see much fun in marriage right now... I just wanted to know what the whole purpose of dating without the intention of getting married was? . It's a bit like buying a new mobile or eating new food. The purpose for me is adventure, excitement, learning about women and getting some dating experience. I wouldn't want to be a lackless recluse locked up at home and then walk into a marriage. It would be over before it started. Most of us are young, school/university/career focussed but some are dating when they aren't even ready for marriage. . perfect time to date not marry in my view, each to their own! I personally wouldn't date a person if I didn't see the "whole" forever thing with them. . That's your view not everyone is going to agree with you. It's like anything in life you'll never quite know what's around the corner. Why go through all of that? all mentioned to you above.Waste your time, effort, love, energy and emotions on something that you aren't even expecting to last? Just like anything else in life you know won't last you'll never know until you try.Do these people not think of their families? mum and dad were probably doing the same thing as them when they were younger so why can't the children do it?
What would happen if their parents found out? A slap on the writs, a bit embarrasing at first but they will get used to it. It's not like you find out your kids are taking drugs or murdering other people is it? It's not a crime to date anyone. Well not in England. lol . Well it's just like I mentioned to you above each to their own. Why bother going to the gym for 2 weeks then giving up? Why bother watching Hollyoaks for 1 month then stop watching it? Sounds like you are a bit scared of dating it's really not that bad you know, bite your shotgun bullet and give it a go!
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Post by londonLIONjatt on Jul 23, 2008 17:42:29 GMT
yeah its true. so why the "lol" at the end? that's why no one takes you seriously, because i seriously find this kinda stuff funny and a joke, hence i can't stop laughing at it, and on top of that you know i ain't a serious guy, no matted how hard i try to be, still i'm militant nevertheless
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Post by JackWilshere on Jul 26, 2008 21:07:39 GMT
Man I am SOOOO FIT. WOOOOOOO.
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