|
|
Post by Sabrina on Apr 6, 2005 13:08:33 GMT
LOVE MARRIAGE OR ARRANGED MARRIAGE??
which 1 wud u chose n why
|
|
|
|
Post by Jasi_bham on Apr 10, 2005 12:43:23 GMT
In an ideal world, u wud want the whole bollywood luv story.....where the man of ur dreams just happens to move in next door n you fall in love just at first sight, ur parents love him, u get married, u have 2 perfect children n you are happy forever......BUT it prob aint gona happen like that!!!! Id love to find my own husband n i hope i do meet the right guy for me.....but if that fails i can always turn to mom n dad n i dont mind them findin sum1 for me cos nowadays arranged marriages r not FORCED marriages, u get to meet the guys, get to no him, date him n then U make the decision!!!! So im easy.....im gonna go wiv the flow n just hope i do manage to get married n b happy!!!!  |
|
Ritzy
Junior Member
Posts: 53
|
Post by Ritzy on Apr 15, 2005 13:05:31 GMT
lol...jasi if only dat was tru life!
x
|
|
|
|
Post by bham da jatt on Apr 15, 2005 18:50:24 GMT
yes in an ideal world, ud love that to happen, like what happened in "kal ho naa ho", but srk not dyin in the end lol.
n yes ur right, the term "arranged marriages" i think is old fashioned. its either "forced marriages" which is very rare, or more commonly "introduced marriages". n personally, i dont think there is anyting wrong with that at all.
if i dont find my miss perfect (dont tell me she doesnt exist, even though ive hit 22, ive still got hope lol), then i wouldnt mind my parents trying to find her for me.
so yes, prefer love....but completely happy with arranged too.
or even better....a mixture of both, arranged which turns into love...
my love to u all, as always,
bham da jatt
x
|
|
|
|
Post by Jasi_bham on Apr 15, 2005 21:11:00 GMT
lol.....well i dnt want a dead srk so no thanks...in fact i wudnt want him if he was alive either!!! nah i dnt want a bollywood film!!! i just want to find a guy i connect wiv none of the luvvy duvvy S#!t....i dnt need a guy that buys me roses or as jatt prefers lillies (oops did i actually say that.....sori the secrets out!!!!) I just want to find a guy i can have a laff with cos at the end of the day i just want laff my way thru life!!!! So ne jokers out there....mayb i shud marry a clown that wud make me laff!!!! Gd luck findin ur perfect partner guys.....u can always ask aunty to hook u up!!! TC guys n mwah  !!! |
|
|
|
Post by bham da jatt on Apr 16, 2005 8:32:33 GMT
u cow!!! ill sort u out later! peeps, jus ignore her, she never makes sence  lol seriously though jasi, i dont think u want it cuz uve never had it. my ex was exactly the same before, very much like ur thinkin right now. but when its there, when ur man gives that kinda love to u, ill use her quote "i feel like im in the clouds". i think its a good idea to experience it, once u do, trust me ull expect that foreva n b dissappointed if u dont get it. so yes...bollywood films do work. n if they work for u, im really happy for u! love to u all bham da jatt x |
|
|
|
Post by Jasi_bham on Apr 16, 2005 13:24:04 GMT
LOL!!!!! a cow!!!! mooooooooo well who nos mayb i will change but i dnt no y.....really sweet guys....SICKLY SWEET guys just make me feel ill!!!! i really cnt stand ppl bein toooo nice......i prefer ppl that can b mean too....just makes it more fun....ive always thought ppl that r too nice r just borin!!! dnt mean to sound nasty tho.....i want a guy that i can have a bit*h with n who will fight wiv me sumtyms....mayb throw sum dishes around.....i cudnt stand i guy that wud wait on me all the tym.....i need a manly man!!!! |
|
|
|
Post by bham da jatt on Apr 16, 2005 15:59:04 GMT
hey, i am a manly man, im no woos!
u know its funny u say that jasi, cuz in a couple of relationships, 1 in particular i got kinda walked all over on, n my mate said:
"treat them mean to keep them keen"
n i thought about that a lot, i started being a bit mean to her, n yes i guess i kinda took more control, but i could only keep that going for a day, it jus wasnt me.
i said to my mate that "ur theory might work, but its not me. i wanna b the kinda person that i am n not have to be the kind that keeps them keen. if they like me for who i am then all good, if they dont then maybe they r not for me"
so ppl out there, b urself, no need to be mean to any1 if thats not u n no need to be sweet to any1 if thats not u.
u really do wish though, thinkin about it so much, that the whole bollywood story does happen to u:
"u meet this girl (maybe even star off by fighting lol), then u get closer, become friends, become best friends, n then u think about it n u both do wanna spend the rest of ur life with each other" awww.
if only...
love to u all
bham da jatt
x
|
|
|
|
Post by Desi Tiger on Apr 20, 2005 10:07:33 GMT
LOL...u lot crack me up u and ur bollywood movies ahaha..if only life was dat simple eh?...
but sadly it aint thers a soul m8 out ther so they say that is destined for you... thats if you believe in dat sorta stuff, mind u id rather have love marriage then arranged at the end of the day y hav an arranged marriage if you not happy cuz ur guna mess up hu ever life your wiv, waste time money wen u cud be wiv sumone u relly wana b wiv, jus a case of goin out ther... and find the fitness hunna.?
peace
ezzy
tiger
|
|
sim
New Member
Posts: 34
|
Post by sim on Apr 20, 2005 10:27:18 GMT
I would say love marriage ie u have got to know the person before hand, but end of the day both are a gamble as people can change.
latersxx
|
|
zara
New Member
Posts: 1
|
Post by zara on Apr 20, 2005 12:57:37 GMT
wag1 u arite yo take dis addy crzyzara@hotmail.com
and dis one sexy_kaj_4u@hotmail.com
safe gezer
xx
|
|
|
|
Post by bham da jatt on Apr 20, 2005 13:02:47 GMT
err...huh?
|
|
|
|
Post by Desi Tiger on Apr 21, 2005 18:00:18 GMT
Erm...bruv wots dat all bout...? loll....  |
|
|
|
Post by fantasy on Apr 27, 2005 10:23:08 GMT
neway bak to the topic!!!
i personally wud go for love marrige cuz to me its alll bout love and commitment for life!!!!and i wudnt b happi meetin a starnger having to get to no him den marry him jus find it uncomfatable!!!!
im not sayin arranged marriges dont wrk...cuz dey do..but nowdays no1 is rly wanting an arranged marige dey want to make der own mind up!!but also its not becoming arranged marrige its forced aswell!!!
my parents wnt me to have an arranged but they dnt no dat im gna find sum1 maself!!!so love 4me!!!!!.x.x..x.
|
|
|
|
Post by Bunnypie on Apr 30, 2005 12:49:44 GMT
The question is... do we females get the choice? Frm MY experience NO we dont. We dont have the choice. as i sed i am speaking from experience. from as far back as i can remember my mom ALWAYS sed that im not allowed to find my own guy. whereas wit my bro and other male cousins they hav neva had that 'lecture'. there is alot sexism within the indian culture and i suppose our parents are not to blame for that 100%.however, in a way they r...because they shud also b moving with the times.
I know that i will deffo have to have an arranged marriage but id prefer a luv marriage.
gud thread but im sory i cant give a closed answer.
|
|
|
|
Post by fantasy on Apr 30, 2005 14:41:37 GMT
yeaaa i agree wid u there!!!!ive always always sed and still am stickin to this frt that!!!i support my religion and uvas but i do definatley think that it is sexist!!!!!but at the end it sez wer all equal!!!was alll dat about!!dat annoys me tho!!!!
i no ma parnts wnt me to have an arranged marridge!!but i dont no yet if they will acyualy make me have 1!!ino my mum wudnt mind me findin sum1 but its ma dad whos still livin bak in his old days.ha!!!
|
|
|
|
Post by Bunnypie on Apr 30, 2005 16:53:45 GMT
See for me it is the opposite. my dad doesnt say anything but my mom is stil bk in da old days.she aint gna force me in2 marriage, but it has to be arranged.
frm a religious point of view sikhi on a wholly basis is about equality, but there is so much disbelief within our culture that everything sikhi stands for has jus gone out the window. to b honest im not a religious person as much as im a spiritual person so...
anyway dats all i got 2 say at the mo so....
|
|
|
|
Post by fantasy on May 1, 2005 13:53:52 GMT
yea id say im more spiritual dan religious!!!!even tho id love to be!!!
religion is a hard thing to follow and i do respect all them dat do follow it as much as possible!!!!
but i do also think der are alot of things in religion i dont agree wid and maybe i will if i understood it betta!but i dont!!hha.x.x..x.
|
|
|
|
Post by MissDesi on May 7, 2005 13:56:41 GMT
I respect the fact that my mum and dad had a arranged marriage, but sometimes think to myself how could have? Trying to think of myself doing that, I just cant imagine it. different times brings different minds.
|
|
|
|
Post by fantasy on May 7, 2005 14:52:08 GMT
yes i agree wid u 100% there miss desi girl!!!!.x.x..x.x
|
|
|
|
Post by bham da jatt on Jun 11, 2005 19:00:57 GMT
yeap different times do bring different minds.
n also different ages bring different opinions.
one might think they will prefer arranged marriage to love marriage today or vice-versa, n after a few more years, those opinions may change.
take care all
x
|
|
|
|
Post by asianpwincess on Jul 21, 2005 11:51:48 GMT
I wud want 2 have a love marriage coz arranged would be 2 weird! Can't imagin myself marrying someone who i didnt know very well!
|
|
|
|
Post by walsallkuri on Jul 25, 2005 11:09:04 GMT
for me it'll prob be love marriage...thing is what do u mean by arranged cus now a days they aint the same as there were say 20 odd years ago..my parents had arranged marriage but what it was like then and what its like now is totally diff...parents are cool if i have love marriage as long as the guys sikh...so i suppose thats chillin! |
|
|
|
Post by bham da jatt on Jul 26, 2005 11:50:21 GMT
for me it'll prob be love marriage...thing is what do u mean by arranged cus now a days they aint the same as there were say 20 odd years ago..my parents had arranged marriage but what it was like then and what its like now is totally diff...parents are cool if i have love marriage as long as the guys sikh...so i suppose thats chillin! yes i totally agree, nowadays its not arranged marriage its more of an introduced marriage, which i dont think is a bad idea at all. |
|
|
|
Post by Bunnypie on Jul 26, 2005 16:26:57 GMT
wel i hav 2 admit that wit my and my fiance we met each other..but now we r having fake pachole
|
|
!!!
lol
