S0HN1
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Post by S0HN1 on May 9, 2005 12:06:30 GMT
Hey guys I seriously need some advice I just dunno wat 2 do
A couple of years ago I attended a friends wedding and stayed for about a week. I recently found out that his marriage is on the rocks because his wife is saying that she saw us of snogging one another during their wedding. I am scared, if my husband finds out (even tho nothing happened) he will will go ballistic because he is the macho overprotective type and no I did not have an arranged marriage. I got married this year and am very very happy with him. I have always had feelings for my friend but did not have the guts to say anything to him and when I did get enough courage I found out he was getting an arranged marriage. I know my friend loves me like mad and that he did not have the courage to say anything because he did not want to spoil my relationship wid my husband who was then my boyfriend. please help me coz i honestly don't know what to do.
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Post by fantasy on May 9, 2005 14:50:18 GMT
OK DAT WAS ABIT CONFUSIN TO RAD BUT NEWAY!!
Y ARE U WORRIED FOR..HOW CAN YA M8 THINK U WER SNOGGIN HIM WEN U WASNT...HAVE U ASKED HER THAT??
N DNT WORRY BT UR HUBBY FINDING OUT DERS NUFIN RLY TO FIND OUT BUT IF UR RLY WORRIED DEN Y DONT U TALK TO UR HUSBAND N TELL HIM WOT UR FRIEND FORT U WER DOIN!!!
CUZ IF HE DUZ FIND OUT N NOZ DAT U NEVA TOLD HIM HES GNA THINK U DID HAVE SUMT TO HIDE CUZ U NEVA MENTIONED NEFIN!!!!.X.X.X..X
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Post by fantasy on May 9, 2005 14:52:37 GMT
n are u sayin da guy dat gt married u liked???well if u are,,,,,den das now in da past hes married n so are u uva wise u wudnt b wid ur husband innit!!!!jus b honest n dont hide nufin cuz den ul luk to be da bad person wen uve bin innocent from da start...but qwts da guy sayin ??da 1 u was meant to of kissed???
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Post by MissDesi on May 9, 2005 16:22:39 GMT
As far as I can see , you have three options.
1. Tell ur hubby of these rumours.
2. Talk to ur mates wife and assure her it didnt happen
3. sit back and do nothing.
All three options have their pitfalls. Does ur hubby know ur mate? or his wife? Do u know ur mates wife enough to talk to her? How likely is it that ur hubby will find out?
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Post by Desi Tiger on May 9, 2005 23:56:47 GMT
Dta sounds preety bad yeh luk...if your marriage is based on love and trust and keep no lies talk to him tel him bout da rumours and reolve the matter dont let it build up inside you cuz odawise u wil crack and hell be angry for not being onhest oki...! but do it in gud time and your own b4 some one else does...( like wise if it aint true you got nuff to be worried about rite!)
tc
ezzy
tiger
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S0HN1
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Post by S0HN1 on May 10, 2005 8:03:08 GMT
I wish it was as simple as that my m8's wife is from abroad and she just does not seem to understand its like she is hellbent on messin up her marriage and mine. There is no difference in talking to her and a brick wall. as for telling my husband it aint as simple as that. He won't understand he will go through the roof and will nt listen to a word I say. That bit*h got my mob number from somewhere and started prankin me. she has even called me a couple of times at stupid hours in the morning. Why is it people from abroad they have such low mentality levels. Its like she feels really insecure. I think she just needs a really good slap!
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Post by S0HN1 on May 10, 2005 8:08:59 GMT
...but qwts da guy sayin ??da 1 u was meant to of kissed??? d guy i am ment to ave kiss'd is just fed up wid her and wud like it to just be brushed under d carpet. He still has feelings for me and just wants us to be happy wid our partners. The Night in question wen she saw us all we did was spend d whole nite talkin |
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Post by MissDesi on May 10, 2005 16:03:54 GMT
Do you have feelings for ur mate?
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Post by S0HN1 on May 10, 2005 18:09:29 GMT
Do you have feelings for ur mate? I luv him 2 bits bt i left it 2 l8 2 tel him. we both left it 2 l8 |
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Post by MissDesi on May 10, 2005 18:22:29 GMT
Hmmm....Sounds like ur in quite a situation.....only thing u can do is forget about him , brak off all contact. Or break off ur marraige.
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Post by S0HN1 on May 11, 2005 7:27:43 GMT
If only it was as simple as beakin off all contact. His dad and my father in law r bst m8's. they either cum to ours every few weeks 2 stay d nite or my father in law makes us go to theirs. I can't say no to goin coz then it wil make it 2 obvious. I have stopped callin him and now don't even talk to him because his wyf is such a nutcase.
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Post by MissDesi on May 11, 2005 14:55:36 GMT
Break contact off with him. it can be done.
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Post by fantasy on May 12, 2005 14:44:21 GMT
Y DID U MARRY UR HUBBY DEN IF UVE ALLLWAYS GOT ON N RLY RLY LIKED DA UVA GUY!!!!
but hun seeeriiiously u shud tell ya man wot ur bein accused of like u sed he will get angry but if u dnt tell him hel jus b more angry and have to very gud reasons to be angry dat time
1=cuz of wot has meant to of happend(but didnt)
2=cuz u neva told him bout ne of it...n had to find out from sum1 else
wich will get him suspious
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Post by User on May 12, 2005 15:38:22 GMT
ye jus tell him da truth dat nuttin happened and if he dont believe u jus move on.
cant be dealing with a releationship if he cant trust u
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Post by fantasy on May 13, 2005 20:24:37 GMT
exactly....ur husband shud no u!!!n he shud no definatley if u wud eva do sumt like dat....if he isnt sure den dat claerly shows dat ur married but not much trust is der in ur relertionship!!!
tell him..he will respect u and cnt be as angry as he wud be if he finds out from sum1 else!!!!
--wot are u going to say if he sez"y didnt U tell me??
wen ders nufin to hide??
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Post by MissDesi on May 17, 2005 10:48:59 GMT
No trust = No relationship.
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Post by S0HN1 on May 17, 2005 14:21:19 GMT
ye jus tell him da truth dat nuttin happened and if he dont believe u jus move on. cant be dealing with a releationship if he cant trust u from my xperience in lyf der is neva 100% trust in no relationship. d slightest thing or action can make a person doubt what they have! |
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Post by S0HN1 on May 17, 2005 14:26:49 GMT
hey guys! Ur rite
I am gonna tell him 2nite & I will let u know of the outcome. Ur right there is no point in thinkin wot if this and wot if that happens. I shud jst gt it in d open bt I ave decided if my marriage falls 2 bits dat bit*h is gonna wish she was neva born.
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Post by Jasi_bham on May 17, 2005 15:14:12 GMT
awwww tell us how it goes hun!!! wish u all the best  !!! Hopefully ur husband loves u enuff to understand....n im sure ur marriage will b able to get thru this!!! n that women does sound like a no 1 biatch....dnt let the silly cow get to u!!!! TC n gud luk agen (got my fingers crossed for ya)  |
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Post by S0HN1 on May 17, 2005 17:35:12 GMT
awwww tell us how it goes hun!!! wish u all the best !!! Hopefully ur husband loves u enuff to understand....n im sure ur marriage will b able to get thru this!!! n that women does sound like a no 1 biatch....dnt let the silly cow get to u!!!! TC n gud luk agen (got my fingers crossed for ya) aww thanx m8 i wil def let u know how it goes. |
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Post by fantasy on May 17, 2005 18:29:05 GMT
yea let us no!!!!il be here for ya if ya wana chat ok!!!!
takcare .x.x..xx.x..
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Post by S0HN1 on May 18, 2005 7:47:46 GMT
I told him lst nite & he jst went off on one saying dat sumthin mst ave gone on othawise I wud nt b accused 4 no reason. He sed dat if dis came out and whether is was true or false his family wud nt be able 2 accept it. so i sed f**k em dis is between me & u not them. He gt really angry and told me 2 do wat i wanted 2 & dat he did nt care. he walked out lst nite. I woke up dis mornin & he still had nt cum bck. I think i ave f**kd up our marriage.
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Post by MissDesi on May 18, 2005 12:49:13 GMT
Its better that u told him , he might cool off and be back...
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Post by d1ppy on May 18, 2005 13:24:09 GMT
I agree with MissDesi. I think u did the ryt thing.
I think its to early to tell if your marriage is over or not. Give him time. Once he's calmed down he'll be back to talk to u.
No one would want to end a marriage on rumours!!!
Good luck...god bless xxx
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Post by Jasi_bham on May 18, 2005 16:17:15 GMT
Sohni dnt wori hun!!!!! u did do the right thing n ur husband might b angry initially but he will cool down n see that u did the right thing by being completely honest with him!!!! Hes probably just a bit hurt n will eventually see that u love him enuff to b totally honest wiv him!!! Im sure he will b bak soon......just give him some tym to sort himself out!!!! The fact that u were so honest just shows how much trust n love u have in ur relationship.....n im sure he will see that too!!!! Dnt wori....im sure ur marriage will get thru this!!! Good luk n keep us updated!!! Mwah |
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!!! Hopefully ur husband loves u enuff to understand....n im sure ur marriage will b able to get thru this!!! n that women does sound like a no 1 biatch....dnt let the silly cow get to u!!!! 