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Post by bham da jatt on Apr 21, 2005 8:16:31 GMT
jasi thanks for saying i make sense
spot on; fewer problems if marry into same race. a lot fewer!!!
u say u cant choose in who u fall in love with. well i think u can. i loved my ex who was of a different background to me. n after i broke up with her, ive decided my next partner will be one thats marriage material. so i dont even consider any1 else. n seriously, dont any1 tell me what love is here, cuz i really do appreciate the tru meaning of love!!
pride overtakes love? i think pride is a way of love jasi, n only the more wiser we become we realise that. ur a really smart girl for ur age, but when u hit ur high 20s, i think u realise that.
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Post by bham da jatt on Apr 21, 2005 8:16:48 GMT
precious: can i get this right - jus cuz u marry out of race does not make u a good person, like i said, every1 would do it jus to prove their good. precious i dont expect stupid points like this from u, maybe from a 16yr old, but not u!
u say im a good guy. i never ever said im a good guy though, n i dont think i am. ive got a long path infront of me which ive not reached the end of. thanks for compliementing me, but i really do have a long way to go.
u being stubborn, well thats one of the many flaws Sikhs believes a person is. maybe u need to work on that to become a good Sikh if u believe in the religion, or jus to become a good human in general
u say uve got love for all races too, well so do i. jus cuz i wont marry out of race, that does not mean that i dont love them. u know funny enough, i probs love whites more than u do, cuz thats what my Gurus have taught me to do. so please...dont say something liek that about ppl if u dont know what the ppl r like.
then u go on about adopting a child from a different race?! hello?? and?? id do it too, in fact ive helped children that have been mentally disabled by going to the church. jus cuz im a good Sikh (or try n be one) u think im racist? well in fact its the opp way round. as i said before, being a good sikh gives me encouragement to see every1 being equal!
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Post by bham da jatt on Apr 21, 2005 8:17:15 GMT
jasi spot on again girl: culture has hlped us shape ourselves. its our identity, its our heritage, n its very rich too! not meaning to diss other faiths, but what is the white culture? last yr the national dish for the Uk was curry? says it all i think. think about how much we enjoy ourselves at weddings, all cuz of culture. otherwise we can go into a room n say "i do" n thats the end. but no, our culture makes it ever so exciting n interesting, awww.
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Post by bham da jatt on Apr 21, 2005 8:17:32 GMT
precious: again precious, of course their r gonna be some bad ppl in our societies. but uve gotta look at the overall picture hun. ur being very silly not to. we;ve got status cuz our parents have worked hard n bought it upon us. fine there will be ppl like u that dont appreciate it, well dont. i dont care, but i appreciate it n i respect it big time.
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Post by bham da jatt on Apr 21, 2005 8:17:54 GMT
jasi: yes i think ur right, precious is being prejudice against her own kind. the funny thing is precious is the one that tells us to be all equal, maybe she should learn of her own words n treat asians (her own kind) EQUALLY!!!!! enough said!
u really r angry at asians precios, u need to calm down.
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Post by bham da jatt on Apr 21, 2005 8:18:23 GMT
precious: umm...did i see capital letters? signs of anger id say, cuz a sweet little 18 yr old who is doing ever so well in learning about her culture has argued with u so well u couldnt quite handle it. anger....another vice of Sikhi which we should avoid. hence ur not being a good Sikh, n i dont think thats a sign of being a good human either.
u say many asians are bad. omg...i cant believe ur generalism. u really r the girl whos got ur head in ur arse girl for saying stupid things like that. wheres the treat equally bit gone again? u know id love to meet ur parents to see how they raised u up, cuz u have no respect for a particular culture - UR OWN!!! n u give others lectures about being equal!
backward is not the word, the word u r looking for is traditional! how dare u call asians backward. jus cuz we have respect for our heritage n tradition! oh pleaseeee
ur talking about not accepting asians. well to be honest i dont accept u as my fellow sikh or asian either, not at all! why? not cuz uve married out of race, but cuz u hve no respect for asians (a particular culture) thats breaking the rules of Sikhi - treating every1 equally. n i guess thats breaking the rule of being a good human too.
now u tell me, whos a better Sikh?? u tell me, who knows how to treat ppl equally: u - a person thats married a gora n disses all asians me - a person that wont marry another race but respects all of them??
i enjoyed that, n i hope u got ur answers. im busy with my final yr exams now so u wont get to hear any further answers u may want till june. take care, nice meeting u.
bham da jatt
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Post by precious on Apr 21, 2005 9:23:34 GMT
you got me wrong bham jatt, my point is that asians are FAR from perfect, end of story. S
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Post by precious on Apr 21, 2005 9:29:07 GMT
bham jatt you got me wrong, I didnt mean to generalise, my point is that asians are FAR from perect and are no more special than other cultures. They are not the only people in this world with values, and generalising goras or kalas as having no family values wwhich many asians do is just wrong.
End of the day no matter wot you say I doubt you values the values of goras and kalas. You must be a very very good sikh asian if you do. Asians will always look down on other cultures, i mean they look down on other castes so of course other races are gonna be inferior.
Now its not all asians that do this but its fair to say that the majority do. This aint generalising its just REALITY.
Ive got alot of respect for the good asian values but im not afraid to highlight the bad.
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Post by Jasi_bham on Apr 21, 2005 10:24:21 GMT
well at least uve admitted where ur wrong precious....n thats not so easy to do....so i do respect u for that!!! but i think the problem is the way u come across in the forum is just v angry!!! n u seem to think that the majority of asian aint v nice BUT u gotta remember yes a lot of asians do look down at ova races but ova races do just the same thing.....its just in our nature.....each race thinks that they r the best.....for e.g. if u asked me whether i wish id been born a gori id say NO WAY cos i do think ive been born into the best culture....of course im not sayin it is!!! but thats how ova races must feel too.....so yes all races have good n bad ppl....n at the end of the day we are all EQUAL!!!!
neways tc luvlies n its been fun!!!!
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Post by fantasy on Apr 29, 2005 20:33:34 GMT
YUP YUP!1I AGREE WID JASI-BHAM!!!!!but precious nos i kinda agree wid her to!!!
hey girl wusup!!.x.x.
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Post by RepnSinghz on Nov 11, 2005 20:34:27 GMT
im marrying a "gori"
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Post by kidterra on Nov 12, 2005 0:57:55 GMT
well good 4 u, i prefer punjabi gals gotta say, especially the ones who r bit*hes, the fit types with tha attitude, who play hard 2 get, ye man.
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Post by lilsaj on Nov 13, 2005 20:58:00 GMT
Yea kidterra, gotta luv them nakre
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Post by Jagdeep on Nov 20, 2005 16:05:12 GMT
Yoh
Nice trend though
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Post by Bunnypie on Nov 21, 2005 11:12:56 GMT
ummm....no comment kidterra
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Post by whitegal4asianguys on Apr 2, 2006 13:49:05 GMT
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Post by rickyduggal on Apr 3, 2006 5:48:01 GMT
well good 4 u, i prefer punjabi gals gotta say, especially the ones who r bit*hes, the fit types with tha attitude, who play hard 2 get, ye man. lolz i know enough galz that play hard to get it makez me laf lolz ;D
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Post by S on Apr 4, 2006 13:31:19 GMT
Wow since u were 12.. no offence but I don't think that you need to have sex with every single guy to be termed as "easy". You just said it yourself - since you were 12, "been out with bare asian guys", sounds "easy" to me! No disrespect intended to you, but I think u might want to realise that a white person's values are completely different to a lot of Asians' (unless they've have a different and more British upbringing too of course). In short, my response to this topic - I personally don't agree with inter-racial relationships FOR MYSELF! Because I see my upbringing as too different, and I don't think I would click with someone who was more "westernised" (or less desi) than me. But I can see why others would agree with it if they're upbringing is different to mine and perhaps more closer to that of a white person's.
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Post by grant on May 29, 2006 1:07:26 GMT
at the end of the day it sounds simplistic but you love someone for them and who they are, 4get all this other crap, theres nuffin 2 say u would love sum1 from 1 race more than another, and if u think that then you must be concidering other things to personality which then isnt true love ok so you can have more in common with someone from your own race but whos to say that you dont have a soulm8 in another race?? i think ppl let 'outside factors' influence them too much when love is about connecting with someone, and race does not dictate this or affect it. Everybody is a human being and so you can fall in love with almost anybody...you never know who u fall in love with if you see a problem with dating someone from another race etc its because you have a prejudice...end of im a gora and my gf is gujarati and id do ANYTHING to help her keep her culture that i could because i know how important it is and is to many asians if anything my asian mates see me as desi because im more like them than a gora thats what love is...doing everything and giving all you have for the person you love
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Post by rickyduggal on May 29, 2006 8:57:59 GMT
^ ur like.....an inverted coconut then eh! wassapnin
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Post by grant on May 29, 2006 15:33:20 GMT
lolz ye dats it u put it perfectly but no1 ever knows a word 2 describe it so they used 'inverted coconut int'
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Post by S on May 29, 2006 17:28:06 GMT
I don't see myself as prejudiced! I just don't agree with it FOR MYSELF!! Because I know I'm different to most and perhaps I'm not as westernised as most other girls in the UK. I'm not tryna blow my own trumpet in saying that, that's just how I feel about myself and who I'm most likely to get on with! I have a couple of relatives who have married people outside of their race, and I don't see anything wrong with it, cos I can see how well they get on together.
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Post by grant on May 29, 2006 18:25:47 GMT
lol ye sorry fink i was abit 2 quick 2 say it was a prejudice but i fink in some cases it can be that just disguised but obviously in cases like yours its not
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Post by S on May 29, 2006 20:43:44 GMT
But u got to understand why some people may be prejudiced.
In some cultures it is even more important to retain roots, religion and identity. In more westernised cultures, it isn't.
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Post by x*x*x(R0J££)x*x*x on May 29, 2006 20:47:03 GMT
yeh i wud neva fink bout checkin sum1 outside my race/culture cuz they dnt understand certain fings plus in my books, i fink if u go out wiv sum1 whos a diff race, u dissin ya religion
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