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Post by walsallkuri on Jul 8, 2005 15:36:48 GMT
it does take time babe- i was with sum1 for three years- thought it was the real deal..we were in love and nothing else mattered..parents were against it but then grew to accept it..then other s*it happened and we had to separate...it was so hard..didnt think id find anyone like him...but after a while u get stronger and realise it wasnt meant to be...there's always someone else out there for u... BE STRONG HONEY.x
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Post by Bunnypie on Jul 8, 2005 18:50:45 GMT
bunny pie i wish i was as string as u. dnt know wont hurt me. i dnt want him cumin 2 me in da day and goin hme 2 her. its so hard to got over him. i stil aint sed my gud bye i am goin to as soon as i am strong. al it is.. is a habit and rountine and oce u break dat habit it wil b fine. like me i chat 2 him everyday etc but once we dnt chat it wil b hard but da rountine wil be broken u get me. UR THE ONE THATS STRONG HUN.... im so weak. im actualy quite ill frm all this and u r right wen usay this routine is hard 2 break. im calling him every sec of the day, he;s on my midn every sec of the day and the moment we part...i cry. i cant seem 2 stop crying lately. im not strong hun...trust me deep dwn inside is jus a fragile heart which is broken., but iv managed 2 selloptape it 2geta... reply bk
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Post by bham da jatt on Jul 9, 2005 19:43:40 GMT
hey girls, sorry for the late reply - punjab2000 dont send email notifications at the moment, but tony is doing his best to sort that out.
anyway, i do think that life has become so much stronger n wiser than she was at the start, well done hun, im sure it will all work out n yes ur right at the time u think everythin is goin against u, but then with time u realise that everything happens for the best - so yes u will meet some1, as they say there r plenty of fish in the sea, there r sooooo many guys out there n im sure one wil be for u, one that can keep u really happy!
bunnypie, i know where ur coming from, im gonna keep this message short, i think ur shooting urself in ur own foot. uve gotta wake up hun n realise that ur putting urself through all this pain. yes by not talking to him u will make it hard for urself, but dont jus live for today hun, live for the future. uve gotta think long term...
here for any1 if they want a chat!
PS life u dont need to say thanks cuz helping other ppl is a good deed n y r we born? to spread happiness in this world hunna? so jus doin a duty.
take care all
bham da jatt
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Post by life on Jul 9, 2005 20:59:08 GMT
bunnypie. explain ur situation 2 me. i wil help ya regardles of mine. explain frm da start as in how u meet how u know u liked him and how he got a misses (or woteva u wana cal her) does he know wot does he say do u and him stil chat how does he feel everything
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Post by life on Jul 9, 2005 21:05:58 GMT
thanks bham da jatt. im ok dealing wid it. wot else cn i do. i mis him lots and i dnt ever blame him4 wot hapened, coz its lifes circumstances and if sumting is not meant to be it wont b, so me and him cudnt of dne nething about it.no mater hw we tried.
yh i no there is lots of guys bt at da mintue im jus guna get over dis one, and when da tym is rite i wil meet sum1, everything hapens in its place in tym.
so bham da jatt wot do u do. wot did u study at uni.hv u fini and if yes wot u get in ur degree. ur a sfe guy and trust me ur veryunderstand i hv read ur other messages. thansks lot
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Post by bham da jatt on Jul 9, 2005 21:11:27 GMT
hey anytime, like i said, i like to try n help ppl out, some ppl dont like what i write n some do...
jus finished uni, graduating next week from uni of bham. got my 2i, so reasonably happy with it.
good luck with ur final yr next year, b careful not to let any other guys runi ur final yr! which uni r u at?
bham da jatt
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Post by Bunnypie on Jul 9, 2005 22:26:48 GMT
bunnypie. explain ur situation 2 me. i wil help ya regardles of mine. explain frm da start as in how u meet how u know u liked him and how he got a misses (or woteva u wana cal her) does he know wot does he say do u and him stil chat how does he feel everything Babes, i dont even know where 2 start. W el iv known him 4years. he was already wit this b**ch but then slowly as time went on we came so close, we fel in luv wit each other.we were in each others lives every second of the day. not a moment passed wen we werent 2geta. I always knew that i was gna b 2nd best but that was fine, he was there, he cared 4 me. but then i started feeling bad 4 his toher half. i wudnt like it if my other half was cheating on me so we stopped all the luvvy duvvy stuff and stayed best of frends. he's my guardian angel. I luv him. Jus recently i had a convo wit him bout how he feels bout me and he says he cares but 4 obv reasons we can hav a fully fledged relationship. Iv had a few run-ins wit his other half...she's a right f**kin b**ch, silly f**kin cow.cheap f**kin sl*t........
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Post by bham da jatt on Jul 10, 2005 10:39:23 GMT
bunny, u must control ur anger, in such a situation any1 would see her as u describe her, but really dont u even once think that what he's doing to both of u is wrong. the fact that he's married to her n telling u that he loves u, im sorry but it sounds all a little two faced to me n very unfair for her - she might be a bit*h, but im sorry no1 deserves their husband telling some1 else that he loves them n not the wife, think thats really harsh.
im sorry it sounds as if im taking her side, im not - but i defo think a married man cheating on his wife is discusting!
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Post by life on Jul 10, 2005 11:09:11 GMT
hiya
so he bn wid dat gal 4 ages then innit. yh i understand dat must b hard, al them moments and memories. but bunnypie he getin da best of both worlds. u got ntohin so even if u go he got sumthing to fal on. think about it. ur hurtin urself and if ur family knew ul b hurtin them as well, its not worth it. i know how u feel and trust me dnt tink i dnt coz i know how u feel.
no u dnt wana b 2nd best wot hv u done 2 desreve dat ntohin. u cnt see it now but the garss is grenner on the other side.
and i know like u sed its gud 2 hv him in ur life but like bahm da jat sed ur hurtin urself mre, its hard i kow but mre on. tym wil heal. u dnt wnt to share a man. if he cn do it 2 her he cn do it 2 ne1. and also LOVERS CNT B FRIENDS and dats a fact ask ne1.
and at da end of da day al u do is trust sum1 he cud b compltely diff wid her u dnt knoe do ya. (im not sayin he is but im sayin it cud b)
even if it hard u hv 2 move on trust me. u cnt live in da past. GOD GAVE U EYES IN THE FRONT OF UR HEAD NOT DA BAKC SO U CN LOOK 4WRD. il help ya thru. coz u prob jus nid sum1 there 4 u and i wil be. private msg me if u want i dnt know how 2 lol
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Post by bham da jatt on Jul 10, 2005 11:22:32 GMT
well said, ill jus like to add one more thing neither of us have said. n that is the fact that u obviously cant be with him, i know thats hard to take in, but u know its true! think about ur future, i know u dont want to be thinkin about ur next guy u b with, but if u did, ud realise that he wouldnt really want to be with some1 thats in such a situation! do u know what i mean? ur ruining ur own future, move forward as life said!
good luck hun
bham da jatt
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Post by Bunnypie on Jul 10, 2005 17:09:38 GMT
Its so easy 2 just say ''move on'', but its not. i dont think iv got the strength 2 do it.. i realy dont....
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Post by bham da jatt on Jul 10, 2005 21:56:50 GMT
well only u can do it, i/we/whoever can tell u what we think is best, its for u to take the decision hun
bham da jatt
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Post by Bunnypie on Jul 11, 2005 19:01:39 GMT
i know and i appreciate all the advice.
hey i thought this thread was meant 2 b helping Life...not me
SORY LIFE
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Post by bham da jatt on Jul 12, 2005 20:34:31 GMT
lol, i know.
i think its cuz life has sorted out her problems, or shall i say doing best she can. but we r tryin to sort everything out for u, which hopefully shows u whats right n not....
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Post by life on Jul 12, 2005 20:50:26 GMT
Khida bunny pie.
dnt say sori joker. least my thread helped u get ur probz out, coz if i neva started this, we wudnt know about wot u doin wid innit.
yh bham da jatt is rite i know wot i hv 2 do, and im TRYIN MY BEST. im not sayin it is ez trust me, its mega hard. but like i sed il help ya thru k. coz im in da sme boat. trust me once u sed goodbye dats da hardest part, yes u wil b sad but as days go by u wil b dealing wid it. time is a healer. its like a scar, the mre u pick it da worser it wil get, so in order to make a full recoverly u hv 2 let it heal, so remaba say good bye and dnt get in touch and heal within time. yes its guna b hard but u hv2 b srtong and think wot is the best and u know wot it is, but at the end of the day only u can mk da choice. coz he is getin da best of both worlds ur hurting urself and if your family ever found out ul b hurting them as well. so plz do it, tk ur time but think about everything from a to z. yes u wil have u moments of weaknesses where u jus broke down and cry i do, so all i do is cry and then pick myself up, and no1 cn mk u feel beter u hav to find ur inner strength k.
if u move on there is sum1 better out their 4u, u may not see it yet (and u prob dnt wana) but u will. everthing happens in its place in time.
u meet people in ur life 4 a reason, they teach u things help u bcome who u r. and when their time is done they will go. and u have to accept that i have i tink. and if u meant 2 b u wil b NO1 CN STOP DAT. coz in life woteva guna happen it wil, and it may feel bad now but its 2 ur advantage and il seen dat sum time later k. see how im actin so string but i aint feel S#!t man! i know how u feel trust me, and w8 til miss india cumz im guna feel even bad, but like i sed WHAT I DNT KNOW WONT HURT ME. coz she cumin soon but b4 she does il have tim to heal i hope. and il face facts. but listen me help ya. k u aint alone
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Post by bham da jatt on Jul 12, 2005 21:28:48 GMT
Khida bunny pie. time is a healer. its like a scar, the mre u pick it da worser it wil get, so in order to make a full recoverly u hv 2 let it heal, so remaba say good bye and dnt get in touch and heal within time. yes its guna b hard but u hv2 b srtong and think wot is the best and u know wot it is, but at the end of the day only u can mk da choice. very well put hun. n sweet of u to say u aint alone, u n aint neel take care babes bham da jatt x
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Post by Bunnypie on Jul 13, 2005 17:18:22 GMT
Once u sed goodbye dats da hardest part I cant say gudbye tho, iv tried trust me i hav but i jus cant. it kills me jus havin 2 think bout it......
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Post by bham da jatt on Jul 13, 2005 21:42:45 GMT
bunny, ur jus making it harder for ur future...
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Post by Bunnypie on Jul 14, 2005 15:58:38 GMT
plz try and understand it frm my point of view. this guy has been thru the worst part of my life. he has been there for me wen i didnt wana live anymore... i cant repay him 4 everything he has dun.... iv fallen in luv him and i didnt even no....
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Post by bham da jatt on Jul 14, 2005 16:27:34 GMT
i do understand bunny, ive been in ur shoes, know what its like.
like life said, its probs hard for u to see it right now, but who's to say ur not gonna meet some1 that loves u even more than a guy u say loves u, but i say "married some1 else n didnt even explain himself properly!"
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Post by Bunnypie on Jul 14, 2005 20:05:04 GMT
truthfuly i wish i cud understand all this myslf.... im so confused.... 24/7 he is on my mind. wen i eat, drink etc....he;s on my mind. there has been so many times wen iv been thinkin obut him while tlkin 2 sum1 else and sed his name accidentaly....crazy innit.... but wot can i do.... i luv him frmt he bottom of my heart
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Post by bham da jatt on Jul 14, 2005 21:29:55 GMT
truthfuly i wish i cud understand all this myslf.... im so confused.... 24/7 he is on my mind. wen i eat, drink etc....he;s on my mind. there has been so many times wen iv been thinkin obut him while tlkin 2 sum1 else and sed his name accidentaly....crazy innit.... but wot can i do.... i luv him frmt he bottom of my heart bunny, ill only be repeating myself, so i guess theres no point to that, all i can say is the quicker u move on the easier it will be for u - n thats coming from experience. the rest is upto u hun. take care bham da jatt x
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Post by punjabani on Aug 23, 2005 20:06:52 GMT
Well where do i begin I've read everything from start to finish and not being able to relate to your problems in any way I thought you'd might like some advice from someone thinking with their head rather than their heart. So i'd better apologise b4 hand if i say something that upsets you. Firstly LIFE well done for realising that now your fella has got married you need to step out of his life 4 good. Cos if it was tru love on his bhalf he would'nt hav got married 2 sum1 else even if it was to keep his parents happy. when his wife does come over watch his phonecalls will become less frequent and over time he will forget you cos he'll hav his life sorted. so what you need to is stop calling him, change your numba and if you do bump into him in the street keep things short and sweet. never let him see that you still want him cos over time you'll look back and think what was i thinking and you'll find sum1 else who'll love you 4 being you. Now Bunny pie .....oh my gosh woman what are you doing? B4 you carry on reading this take a long hard look at yourself in the mirror are you not capable of being loved by sum1 who loves you for being you. This guy that you've fallen 4 is married what goes on in his life has nothing to do with you. sounds harsh i know but the sooner you realise this maybe you won't be feelin like it's ground hog day every day. The sooner you stop callin this guy the better it will b for u like i said to life change your numba and stop trying to contact him. Both of you love is like a balloon filled with helium if you accidently let go you never get it back!! sorry if i could'nt b any help 2 you punjabani....xx
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Post by Bunnypie on Aug 24, 2005 19:57:22 GMT
Punjabian....ok cool i understand wot u saying...but it not all bout my feelings 2wrds him... he has helped me thru the roughest part of my life.... if it wasnt 4 him then i wud b up in the sky rite now..... i owe my whole life 2 him...
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Post by mizzdeol on Aug 31, 2006 23:51:56 GMT
this jus got me cryin
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