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Post by Monkey on May 24, 2004 16:27:49 GMT
Hay guys, I know this is a sensative subject with a lot of you having a whole load of different experiences. Im not Sikh but fell in love with a sikh guy and had to give him up because of what his family would say. As it turns out we still cant let go! In this day and age shouldn't we be able to love one another for who we are and respect what we all beleive in?
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Post by Sheetal on Jul 25, 2004 21:43:53 GMT
U should be able to fall in love with you who want & still kept your faith, but should learn to be torelant of your partners faith & belives etc, but they should do the same for you. No one should have to change faits etc, becuase of being in love
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Post by sim on Aug 20, 2004 10:34:47 GMT
forget the families that's if u can,
it's about the both of you, and the rest of your lives, The families always come round eventually!! follow your hearts
Good luck !!!
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Post by DO WOT THE HEART SAYS on Sept 13, 2004 12:00:57 GMT
IF YOU LOVE THE PERSON THEN GO 4 IT BUT DO REMEMBER THE ONES YOU ADORE LOVE AND ARE CLOSE TO YOU MAY GET HURT! NOT TO 4GET HOW YUR KIDS WILL BE AFFECTED! MY ADVICE IS THAT YOU SHOULD HEAVILY CONIDER WHO IS EFFECTED B4 U ENTER A RELATIONSHIP!
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Post by A Friend on Oct 16, 2004 0:58:50 GMT
Hey there think it thru very carefully, If he loves you as much as you love him, he will fight to be with you, maybe he can convince his family that you the right person for him, but get all of that cleared up in the beginning, don't give up on your families because down the road you may come across an intersection in your lives where the 2 of you can't come to some sort of agreement and believe that's when the both of you will regret having gone against your families.
Fight for your relationship now, winning the families over might take all you've got, but in the end you'll all be alot happier and have respect for each other as well as each others families and vis versa GOOD LUCK.... From The Bottom Of My Heart.... I hope it all works out for you both.
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Post by alien on Dec 2, 2004 14:04:42 GMT
been there, done it and at the end IT IS REALLY NOT WORTH IT
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Post by Amrita on Jan 4, 2005 11:51:56 GMT
Im sikh and fell in love with a guy who is on the opposite sphere of religion...............the fact is we wer together for 2years and madly in love................i was just waiting to finish uni so tht we could confront our parents but...it so happened that his rents got him hitched ................and things had happened so quiclky that we didnt know what to expect...he's gone abroad now...........most definately married.............want him back.cus i love him..............my advice to you would be if you have no doubts bou this guy then go for it......just think of it as a test from god.............xx......hope god gives you the strength to endure everything.
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Post by uncle ji on Jan 19, 2005 6:44:12 GMT
i dreamt of a jallebi, any conection ?
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Post by MissDesi on Jan 30, 2005 17:51:44 GMT
It shouldnt matter, u shuld follow ur heart
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Post by Pure Buff Jatt on Feb 3, 2005 22:45:04 GMT
I think Asians of different religions might be able to make their relationship work. Though Gorafied situtations are dodgy and Kalafied situations are too extreme so it aint worth the hassle as all your doing is something that is totally forbidden and will make u lose ur rep. For me theres no point in starting something that u know u can NEVER keep as you'll just get hurt sooner or later.
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Post by bham da jatt on Feb 4, 2005 20:19:29 GMT
sorry do disagree with most of u, even though ive felt the first-hand experience myself.
im a sikh, n was goin out with a muslim girl for a couple of years. i loved her b4 we were datin (ie when we were friends) obviously loved her when i was with her, n now 23 months since we've broken up, i still love her.
but ill tell u all 1 thing, no matter how much i love her, i cant put her before my parents. n if im honest, if i were a parent in this day n era, i wouldnt agree to my children getting mattied outsider my race or religion, n probably caste too.
even though most of u who have experienced datin a person for a different religion, i still think u wouldnt let ur kids if u were in ur parents shoes.
love to u all x
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Post by lem jatt on Feb 7, 2005 0:00:39 GMT
again i disegree...........
u and ur partner maybe very happy but whos gonna be disgraced the most ur family
wen ur kids grow up n r in the play ground and their mates r like putt jattan de hoi hoi, wot are half caste jatts guna say ..... nothing. their gonna stand their all embarrased and outcasated thats whos really guna suffer.... ur kids
TO ALL THE JATTS, stick to ur own caste, for ur familys sake and future generations sake
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Post by bham da jatt on Feb 7, 2005 22:00:59 GMT
lem jatt -
think the question here is more about inter-ratial relationships not anything to do with caste.
point i made is that for inter-racial marriages to work, u need to work really hard at it. n to b honest with u, i dont think its worth it, n personally i dont think its right...
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Post by RAMBO on Feb 8, 2005 18:57:55 GMT
Inter_gender, i mean inter racial relationships, hmmmm! the increasingly growing debate! i think in this case it is more a case of hindu/sikh/muslim being in some sort of relationship. the bottom line is that it does happen and if ur one of the un4tunate persons who have got themselves in this mild predicament, i think u should re-assess your situation. by this i mean that where do u see urselfs being in a few years time??? if its just a fling then fine but can u handle the fact that soon u will have to depart and go ur own separate ways??? or maybe u think u have the guts to take it all the way and tell all ur family bout it and get married etc etc lol lol lol so heres how it is 1)jus for fun and u know u will b able to walk away 2)try n make sumat out of it and face the embarrassment (besthi) and the ridicule from ur families and the risk of being the outcasts and losing everything 3)dont think about ne consequences and take it as far at it will go and then think, 'oh S#!t' we gota do something!! we moving bak from uni now and im going bak to southall and ur goin bak to alum rock, what do we do?? lol ;D jus wnted to use the smilies yeah so its a fuked up situation realy and another thing.......the scenarios i have mentioned are the stereotypikal ones and i know some of u geeks r thinkin, 'oh who is this guy,..cos thats not necessarily true' about what im saying. know its not always the cse but theres always an exception to the rule. also, wd u agree that when a muslim lad marries a sikh gal, then shes always the one to convert??? is this y non-muslims deteste it when muslims date non muslims. the fera that that person will embrace islam? asians are like a tub of pringles.....they all taste the fukin same whether its barbecue flavor or plain!!!! peace out!
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Post by Pure Buff Jatt on Feb 9, 2005 18:05:48 GMT
Yeh being seen dating with another asian isnt as bad as being seen with blacks and whites. Asians look similar. I've seen bengalis and pakis have successful relationships aswell as hindu Sikh cos they are both indian. Sikh relationsips with muslims and blacks would be a slap to your own faith. Personally, I also think dating outiside ur faith is risky and wrong.
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Post by bham da jatt on Feb 9, 2005 18:29:04 GMT
agree with u to some extent, yes its not so bad datin within ur own race as different ones.
still think hindu-sikh, paki-bengali isnt so right. ive seen bengali-paki couples not workin out cuz of what families want, n same for hindu-sikh.
risky either way as u said....
but interracial a defo no no!
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Post by londonLIONjatt on Dec 22, 2007 16:05:43 GMT
hi well, to cement ur love, get married, the family can;t stop u
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Post by Ghost... on Dec 22, 2007 21:30:55 GMT
^^
oh yes they can!
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Post by 5abikuri10 on Dec 22, 2007 23:13:07 GMT
no they cant, not unless u run away and get married, they cant do anything after ur married otherwise they could be sent to jail for harrassment
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Post by tac on Dec 23, 2007 0:12:58 GMT
inter-racial intermingling go for it..ur life who am i to judge..
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Post by punjabinkarperated on Dec 23, 2007 0:19:37 GMT
mataji ...mein jipiya nu dillon pyar kardaaan
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Post by londonLIONjatt on Dec 23, 2007 15:28:31 GMT
oh come, over 18s can get married without parental consent wiyah karlehn, ehmi kee firee jana
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Post by londonLIONjatt on Dec 23, 2007 21:51:29 GMT
been there, done it and at the end IT IS REALLY NOT WORTH IT yeh man, ehmi kee firee jana, thoreh chungeh kam bacheya nu sikhneh chaheedeh ah
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Post by londonLIONjatt on Jan 19, 2008 1:26:00 GMT
if my children were dating, i would burn them alive dating/courting or whatever the phuk it is. is not part of our heritage. it is liberal desperate people who cannot wait to make husband//wife so end up making bf/gf instead, and also they are too stupid to get to know someone without making partner (or they behave like playa/playerette), and then of course they moan and make excuses, and corrupt younger people and so on, and usually come from these ghetto and poor areas etc... still, erm courtin, u believe its ok to attract a future wife do u not?
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Post by punjabinkarperated on Jan 19, 2008 1:29:34 GMT
hey...us goodlooking people dont want to fall for this arranged marriage...just close ur eyes and roll the dice business the punjabi culture people sold us on for 2000 years....
people should be allowed to chose whose body hair they gonna be diggin outta the shower drain for the rest of their lives
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