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Post by deepererarecords on Apr 30, 2007 16:00:20 GMT
Heres a story i found...
I got married August 27th 2006, and I thought my world was complete, but it wasn’t. My wife has been suffering from bulimia and anorexia for about 4 years and she was getting through it together with me and my family. We offered to get her counselling and she accepted. We were ok, every couple has there arguments here and there but we were strong, but little did I know, that she kept telling her mum and dad about the arguments and everything that happened at home, i.e; she used to text her mum what we ate for dinner, what were done in our bedroom etc!!
Her mum and dad had the nerve to tell me to buy a new car cause my car isn’t what they like, told me to buy a house so they can tell there family that she’s brought a house. Her mum was always interfering in the sense of; “just because my mother-in-law was a *****; I don’t want my daughter to go through what I did” mentality!!!!!
My mum and dad didn’t even ask for her to do anything, mum done all the cooking, I washed up, got all the things ready for work. I paid for all her things from clothes to tampons you name it. She was on my credit cards and she used and abused them to the max, as I said I paid for everything, She went shopping on the 15th November, guess how much she spent, £158 in one shop. That was all of my money!!!! All her ****ing money went back to her mum and dad, she’s left me in £3500 debt and I still haven’t even paid for the honeymoon in Maldives yet, which was £2700!! Total over £6000.
Everyday when we had dinner she used to run to the toilet, I thought nothing of it but I was wrong, my dad went to the toilet after her and he noticed that there was sick on the toilet seat. My father didn’t tell me, he told mum and told mum to speak to her and we will help her through.
I got home last Monday, she didn’t even speak to me, she said her mum and dad are coming over, I thought nothing of it, her olds come over, Quote “my daughter is not happy, we’ve come to take her home” that’s what her mum said, her dad was trying to sort things out, but no she always listened to her mum and she walked out November 20th 2006 12-45am..
We get a phone call Wednesday evening from her mum, were coming over to get her stuff. I backed al her stuff in black bags and left them in the dining room, ***** took all the things I gave her, phone, I pod, platinum rings, everything that was valuable to her on Monday, Her mum asked for my wedding ring back, the nerve of the *****, so I gave it to her.. That’s the story so far,still aint over yet.
I never wish this sort of pain on my enemies cause its even worse then dying..
"Moral of the story ... Move on bro !... Theres someone out there who will truely love you.."
Deeper Era Records
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Post by _**Funky_Jalebi**_ on Apr 30, 2007 20:39:53 GMT
i read all that..... ^^ and i thought this Guy must have shot her.. i would have... made a bottle Bomb..n went over to her yard n xploded it.. thru the letter box..!!
^^Advice..Dont..do that Tho..! only xperts like me..are Professionals..at it..!!
altho thats a touching Story!!
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Post by Deleted on May 1, 2007 13:05:52 GMT
thats really bad he packed all her stuff he shouldnt have packed her ipod n stuff i would go over there and smack the b*tch around then she'll realise who's boss, well he isnt supposed to be boss but he'll show her that she cants walk all over him n get away with it.
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Post by _**Funky_Jalebi**_ on May 1, 2007 14:24:53 GMT
theres Reasons ^^ or he could have done..alot..More..like u said.. Slap..the Heck Outa Her!
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Post by jatti05 on May 2, 2007 11:11:03 GMT
i was gna say violence wud make it worse...but blimey dis is sum nex crap...i feel 4 da guy i dnt no how any1 cud be so cold and evil.:@ hope things get beta in da futa 4 hm
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Post by _**Funky_Jalebi**_ on May 2, 2007 11:48:23 GMT
^^im sure it..is..
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Post by jatti05 on May 2, 2007 11:51:12 GMT
hope so
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Post by singhb05 on May 3, 2007 14:52:31 GMT
Jasbillen, she is 24.
Things have not panned out the way i hoped in my last reply in this thread.
Her father says he doesnt want this headache (his daughters marriage problems) and he said it should be left to me and her and no one else (implying my family shouldnt get involved). But how can this be? its an arranged marriage.. if it was a love marriage then me and her should naturally have more responsibility for this marriage. but since it was arranged, the parents on both sides should be most involved in trying to make this work.
her father says she needs more time to think. so no action has been taken. she is still at her house. and her family hasnt even foned.
if only i had some of their sympathy i would be more prepared to go through the pain of making it work. but since her folks seem apathetic and it seems this unwillingness in a way encourages her wrong doings. cuz in her view shes not doing anything wrong.
also, phabi ji let me in on something. my wife told her that if she doesnt get her way, she will leave, and I would follow her. it seems she wants me to move out. because in my house she is held accountable if she comes late by my mother.
in my view she isnt worth it. i would not leave my family for a devious girl like her. a wife who has always kept her distance from me emotionally.. so she dont get attached to me. so if she has to leave it would be easy for her. its coming together like a puzzle now. now i see why she gave me the cold shoulder all the time. why we've never made love in the 9 months we have been married. shes always had this intention of moving out asap and not wanting to live with her in laws.
i am on the verge of telling her that we must go our own ways..
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Post by Bunnypie on May 6, 2007 11:24:02 GMT
You know I did try and get to know her before we got married. When we were engaged, I called her and tried to go out with her many times. But most the times she was too busy to talk much and never available to go out. I only managed to hook up qith her like 3 times in the year before we got married.. Did that make you think in your head, that if she is too busy to meet you now then maybe she would be too busy for you after marriage?
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Post by singhb05 on May 7, 2007 8:28:51 GMT
Bunnypie
I guess I was naive about it. No I didn't think she might be to busy for me after marriage too.
I dunno life is somtimes too hectic to wonder why things are the way they are.
I feel life has cheated me.
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Post by msscandalous on May 7, 2007 10:04:58 GMT
Yo dude, i think she's not worth it...even if she realises her mistake she has disrespected you and that will never change...even so.....(don tink am crazy or stupid or even siding her) did it ever occur to you that may b she never wanted an arrange marriage in the first place? (hence her avoiding u b4 marrij etc...etc) my theory: may b she was in luv wit sum 1 else...her parents disapproved...wanted her to do the whole arranged ting...done that....so now jus to prove her point n b wit her luv...she decides to be drama queen...gets away frm u...gets what she wanted...gets married "her way" ...whatever the story ..if u really want to make it work...take the initiative..call her meet her whateva it takes n ask her what the deal is straight up......what does she wanna do....was she forced into gettin married?...yada yada yada....n then depending on what happens play cool, move on...there's plenty other fish in the sea..n next tym (jus in case) marry sum1 who luvs u
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Post by singhb05 on May 8, 2007 12:39:40 GMT
did it ever occur to you that may b she never wanted an arrange marriage in the first place? (hence her avoiding u b4 marrij etc...etc) my theory: may b she was in luv wit sum 1 else...her parents disapproved...wanted her to do the whole arranged ting...done that....so now jus to prove her point n b wit her luv...she decides to be drama queen...gets away frm u...gets what she wanted...gets married "her way This could be true.. but then, I remember she used to talk about how our kids would look so cute etc, that it somehow does;t fit in. To be honest with you, and it hurts to say this but I don't think she has any feelings for me, for me to try and make it work. And on the other hand her parents are not setting the right examples for her to learn from. As long as she doesn't use her own head she will continue to make those mistakes in life and never realise where she is going wrong, because her parents lack of response makes it seem ok to carry on the way she does. I don't want to be in a relationship where I am giving but never receiving. It sucks when the love is not returned and you don;t understand why. Then you start doubting yourself.. that maybe theres something wrong with me?
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Post by jatti05 on May 8, 2007 12:57:07 GMT
its worse wen da parents are teachn her rong. i feel 4 u...theres nufing rong wit u...bare gals out there wud be luki 2 hav sum1 as understanding as u.
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Post by msscandalous on May 8, 2007 13:06:02 GMT
did it ever occur to you that may b she never wanted an arrange marriage in the first place? (hence her avoiding u b4 marrij etc...etc) my theory: may b she was in luv wit sum 1 else...her parents disapproved...wanted her to do the whole arranged ting...done that....so now jus to prove her point n b wit her luv...she decides to be drama queen...gets away frm u...gets what she wanted...gets married "her way This could be true.. but then, I remember she used to talk about how our kids would look so cute etc, that it somehow does;t fit in. To be honest with you, and it hurts to say this but I don't think she has any feelings for me, for me to try and make it work. And on the other hand her parents are not setting the right examples for her to learn from. As long as she doesn't use her own head she will continue to make those mistakes in life and never realise where she is going wrong, because her parents lack of response makes it seem ok to carry on the way she does. I don't want to be in a relationship where I am giving but never receiving. It sucks when the love is not returned and you don;t understand why. Then you start doubting yourself.. that maybe theres something wrong with me? No ways notin wrong with chu...you deserve better than her...n i mean that in every sense of the statement....if its any comfort i would kill to have sum1 as caring as you................
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Post by Ghost... on May 8, 2007 13:37:31 GMT
I'm Caring
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Post by Bunnypie on May 8, 2007 18:02:29 GMT
Singh Ji, I have a suggestion for you. Why dont you go India and find a nice family orientated punjaban girl?
In saying that, I mean you dont have to go India to find that type of girl. Believe it or not, there are girls like that in UK...
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Post by Bunnypie on May 8, 2007 18:04:41 GMT
I'LL BE YOUR BACHOLI!! ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
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Post by singhb05 on May 8, 2007 18:19:14 GMT
Awwwww how supportive of you guys! Thanks Amrita n msscandalous
Bunnypie I got too many aunties checking out kuriya for me lol. They're the ones who got me into this mess in the first place!
Do me a favour? Just be a mate? That would be so very kind of you. Anyways, Bacholi's are soo old fashioned.
I'm gonna do things the new way and find my own kuri. That's gonna be a mission!
*sighs* Dunno, can't work up the courage to call my runaway bride and tell her how it's gonna be.
Still miss her
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Post by Bunnypie on May 8, 2007 18:23:30 GMT
^Aww babes honestly she's making u unhappy. Just 4get about her n move on. It is going to be easier said than done, but be strong and move on, learn from your mistakes!!
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Post by singhb05 on May 8, 2007 18:42:15 GMT
Yea, I will have to learn from my mistakes and block her out of my mind.
But as hard as I try thoughts come back at me like a boomerrang. It's things like my bedroom, which I decorated so beautifully for her before we got married. It's the photo album sitting there on the bedside draw. Her makeup n perfume @ her dressing table and the clothes that still smell sweet of her.
I'd have to devlop hateful thoughts towards her to completly lose these feelings I have for her.
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Post by Bunnypie on May 8, 2007 19:06:46 GMT
^^Well i think now is probably a better time than any to re-decorate and have a clear out. get rid of her stuff..... make it a boys room again!!!
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Post by Ghost... on May 8, 2007 21:44:36 GMT
^^ ooooooooooooooh that would be bad boy! installa urinal, and a toilet! NOW we're talking
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Post by Bunnypie on May 10, 2007 17:32:50 GMT
^^URGH!! Really?
No flowers??
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Post by 5abikuri10 on May 10, 2007 17:38:33 GMT
damn... thats sad
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Post by Ghost... on May 10, 2007 17:54:11 GMT
what the urinal?
leave it alone, i would deff have one!
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