Zarah
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Post by Zarah on May 21, 2007 20:52:16 GMT
Hi guys my name is Zarah. In new here. The reason I signed up is cuz i need help. Im so screwed. I have a problem, and this is what it is. Last week, I went out with my boyfriend to Victoria. We stayed there overnight at a hotel. My parents knew I was going with him, and they were okay with it all. Maybe because a couple of my other friends were going to. Or also maybe cuz they didn't know We'd be staying at a hotel.  Anyway, when i came back home. I just stepped inside the house and everyone just went crazy. Surprisingly, even my sister went crazy. Normally she's kool about sh!tt. Nobody's talking to me. It sucks!  The problem is that I don't see why ther all so mad. They knew my boyfriend was gunna be with me. And its pretty obvious that we'd be staying at a hotel. It's common sense, obviously we aint sleepin on tha streets. If they knew all this, then why r they so gay. |
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Post by Baldeep on May 21, 2007 21:12:10 GMT
S#!t happens...
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Post by _**Funky_Jalebi**_ on May 21, 2007 21:27:22 GMT
they probably got shocked..that u actually came bak home ..lol  and didnt do a runner!! |
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Post by jatti05 on May 22, 2007 8:34:56 GMT
there parents...there duin it coz they dnt want u 2 be getin up 2 no gud!
thats parents 4 ya.duno bout y ur sistas bein like dat tho.
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Post by • $1NGH • on May 22, 2007 12:23:13 GMT
hmmmmmm :s datz js random y dey b lyk dat? :s
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Post by Bunnypie on May 22, 2007 16:21:14 GMT
Can we have the full details of events? I am sure your folks would not just flip at the stuff you had told us. There are major bits missing from your record of events...
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Zarah
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Post by Zarah on May 22, 2007 23:44:27 GMT
Yes, there are major bits missing. I don't feel comfortable talkin about this. But for some reason it feels like you would actually help. OK, so we got kinda carried away n yeah we did play around a bit. just a bit. nothing major. But how the hell would my rents ever know what happened in tht room.
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Post by Zarah on May 23, 2007 0:01:06 GMT
Oh yeah, now me parents r just ready to fukin kick my a$$ out of the house. Cuz Dave was caught at the US border yesterday. And certainly i was gonna freak out and panic. And my mom found out because i wanted to go see him and she wouldn't let. She hates his guts now. ................... At like 3 in the morning he called me on my cell, he said he was okay but still i was so scared. Then a hour later he called again and told where i can meet him. He got arrested at tha scene but they let him come home. (thats odd) And hes going bak to jail the day after tomorrow. His parents don;t know about anything, so he told them that hes going to India becus his life is in danger.
It sucks cause its like killing me inside and plus my parents are being so mean. They don't care about him (at all). And thats what bothers me. I love him, whats there problem. There tryna be smart and ther like comming up with plans to get me arranged in india. But that aint happening. Think about it. Would you give up your love for your parents. Or because of a stuppid mistake. And by love i mean major love. Dave means the world to me. He's my one and only. And NO mutherfuker can mess us up. I beleive in my man. and im gonna wait for him to come back. Ima getta lawyer for this and get my love back. I don't care if it means to sell my new ride. Obviously my parents wouldn't pay for the lawyer.
I think i should shut up now. I could keep on going on n tellin u about my pain. It feels so much better. Its like im actually talkin to sum1 that undersatnds me soo well.
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Post by Bunnypie on May 23, 2007 10:11:07 GMT
I understand this may be difficult for you, and also may not be comfortable giving us all the details, but do try ur best. We are here to help (well most of us anyway).
Firstly, you would be surpirised at what your folks can find out. Trust me, I've been there. No matter how clever u are, or how good u r at hiding things, folks always find out.
Think carefully, did u tell ANY1 at all about the both of u staying in a hotel? ANY1 at all? Even if this person swore never to tell any1?
^^Obviously your folks are going to be upset/angry. That is understandable. You need to give them time. What they have foubnd out/what they know has obviously totally shocked them. I do suggest you keep a low profile with them at the moment.
^^Again, this is totally understandable. Your mom doesnt want you to make any mistakes, that you may later regret in life. There is no harm is listening to your moms' advice. You do not neccesarily need to take it, but you don't lose anything by listening to her, do you?
^^One thing I have learnt is that if you lie, even once, then you have to lie a hundred more times just to cover up ONE lie. It is not worth it.
He should have just been honest with his parents. I know it is easy to say, but surely his parents have contacts in India. They will eventaully find out that he is not there. Then what will he say?
I think he should still them what has happened, they may be able to help in some way. They are his parents, not his enemy. Same goes for you. Your mom is ur mom, not ur enemy.
^^You are still young. You are only 21. I know what it feels like to think you are in love, and there wil never be another guy for you, and that this is the guy, the one and only. ...
I GOTA GO. SOWWI!! I'LL BE RIGHT BK TO CONTINUE MY POST!!!
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Post by _**Funky_Jalebi**_ on May 23, 2007 22:00:17 GMT
^^erm.. didnt read..thru all that... but yeah.. ''wha bunnypie said''... she mainly makes sense..when comes to things like this
id give u my view.. ''but jus put it as NO GIRL ON HERE LIKES..WHA I SAY'' lol !!!
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Zarah
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Post by Zarah on May 24, 2007 0:42:52 GMT
thanks bunny, iv never had such a good advise giver.
I know my folks are soo shocked. But thing is that they arnt even trying to understand. Im going through hell right now. And they dont let me c him.
I know im still young, 21. But i know he's the man of my dreams. We've been goin out for 4 years. n wer real tight.
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Post by Bunnypie on May 24, 2007 10:46:30 GMT
^^No need to thank me. ;D ;D ;D
I totally understand where your folks are coming from, and like I said, you need to understand it from their point of view as well. They dont want their little girl getting hurt. In their eyes, they are only trying to protect you. You may not think that that is what they are doing, and it is difficult.
Is it possible for you to sit them down and speak with them? I know, I know, you cannot sit down with Asian parents, and speak about this kind of stuff, but it may help.
4years is a long time to be with somebody, and if you read some of my previous posts about relationshoips, you will see i always advice that a couple build a foundation of friendship before going into a relationship, and I do think you have a strong foundation, and if you feel you are ready for the next thing, then possibly discuss with your mom about marrying him?
What do you think?
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Post by Bunnypie on May 24, 2007 10:48:19 GMT
^^erm.. didnt read..thru all that... but yeah.. ''wha bunnypie said''... she mainly makes sense..when comes to things like this!!! ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D  |
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Post by Zarah on May 24, 2007 23:19:12 GMT
yeah but the problem is that they just hate him so much. The whole issue bout gettin married already rised. But they said he didn't deserve to marry me. i think thats jus stupid. I mean yah he is known for "bad stuff" but they dont really know the real him. I mean he knows how to carry out a realtionship. he knows how to love, and get loved.
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Post by _**Funky_Jalebi**_ on May 25, 2007 12:18:21 GMT
^^^the last bit about how he knows how to love, get loved, carry out a realtionship,etc..
KEEP ONE THING IN MIND.. ^^^THAT ALL CHANGES AFTER U GET MARRIED..^^^
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Post by 5abikuri10 on May 25, 2007 21:07:42 GMT
Hi guys my name is Zarah. In new here. The reason I signed up is cuz i need help. Im so screwed. I have a problem, and this is what it is. Last week, I went out with my boyfriend to Victoria. We stayed there overnight at a hotel. My parents knew I was going with him, and they were okay with it all. Maybe because a couple of my other friends were going to. Or also maybe cuz they didn't know We'd be staying at a hotel. Anyway, when i came back home. I just stepped inside the house and everyone just went crazy. Surprisingly, even my sister went crazy. Normally she's kool about sh!tt. Nobody's talking to me. It sucks! The problem is that I don't see why ther all so mad. They knew my boyfriend was gunna be with me. And its pretty obvious that we'd be staying at a hotel. It's common sense, obviously we aint sleepin on tha streets. If they knew all this, then why r they so gay. 3 WORDS... GET OVER IT LOL |
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Zarah
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Post by Zarah on May 26, 2007 0:32:25 GMT
now that didn't help. Its not that easy to get over it.
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Post by 5abikuri10 on May 28, 2007 17:06:15 GMT
YEAH IT IS LOSSSSSSSSSERRR  |
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Post by 5abikuri10 on May 28, 2007 18:25:50 GMT
CHANGE UR NAME, OR UR APPEARENCE LOLL
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Post by LembherHussainpuri on May 31, 2007 8:19:36 GMT
^ How old are you? 10.
Who in their right mind would want their daughter to go out with a criminal. Sounds like its for the best.
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Post by 007singh on May 31, 2007 13:32:15 GMT
CHANGE UR NAME, OR UR APPEARENCE LOLL shes a 5 year old kid u need help b1tch |
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Post by 5abikuri10 on May 31, 2007 17:02:04 GMT
I WAS JK U f**kSHYTT. SERIOUSLY, WHY U TAKING THIS SO SERIOUSLY ? I NEED HELP,LOL?! YOU JOKIN? I'M NOT THE SAD ONE HERE THAT TELLS THEIR f**kING PROBLEMS TO RANDOM PEOPLE ON THE NET ACTIN ALL DESPERATE. NOW THATS SAD. I'M ONLY BEIN AN IDIOT ON THE NET CUZ I DONT EVEN f**kING KNOW YOU PEOPLE AND I LIVE ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE EARTH.
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Post by LembherHussainpuri on Jun 1, 2007 2:37:05 GMT
Yezzir.
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Post by LembherHussainpuri on Jun 1, 2007 5:31:59 GMT
You've fallen for the classic fake gangster crap. Drug dealers beat their wives. Only a matter of time.
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Anyway, when i came back home. I just stepped inside the house and everyone just went crazy. Surprisingly, even my sister went crazy. Normally she's kool about sh!tt. Nobody's talking to me. It sucks! 
The problem is that I don't see why ther all so mad. They knew my boyfriend was gunna be with me. And its pretty obvious that we'd be staying at a hotel. It's common sense, obviously we aint sleepin on tha streets. If they knew all this, then why r they so gay.
and didnt do a runner!!
