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Post by bham da jatt on Feb 23, 2005 21:53:26 GMT
nick
sorry to disagree with u mate, but this is defo not gonna sound right!
firstly, this is not a matrimonial web-site where ur almost trying to sell urself n then givin out ur email addy, sorry if im reading too much into it!!!
fine uve made a mistake n ur regrettin it n uve decided to speak to divorce lawyers, fine again....but who says thats the right choice. even still it might b for u, but not for every1!
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Post by bham da jatt on Feb 23, 2005 22:06:33 GMT
as i said above jatti, i dont think what nick has said is good advice at all. i feel that if ppl make mistakes then they should accept they've made a mistake n face it n try to do evrything in there strengths to rectify it, not to run away from it, as clearly nick has done!
now answerin ur comments directly jatti kaur...
its always good to hear advice from others, u never know who comes out with what, so always worth it. no1 in this world knows everything n sometimes elders pick up things from their youngers. as for sayin thanks, well cant speak for every1 else thats put a post, but have a feeling they share the same opinion. there is no need to say thanks. if we as a community can come in handy for each other, then isnt that exaclty what a good strong community is about? so defo no need to say thanks...
u called me bham da jatti lol, but dont worry, i know ur talking about bham da jatt lol. yes ur right, final yr, a lot of stuff on at the moment, extremely busy, thanks for asking.
glad u made the trust thing quite clear to ur hubbi, as i said it is very important n that has meant uve got ur foundations in ur relationship built correctly.
fine, dont keep on bringin it up again n again, but just make him sit once good n proper n talk to him on his face, n make sure he doesnt move till he's heard u out. i feel it usually helps if a family member sits in with that, but i know uve not got much chance of that, but maybe a close friend that knows u both well? have u tried that?
never live in fear when ur in a relationship. if some1 has broken ur trust, yes its hard to trust them again, hence never break it in the first place. but i think in this case what u can best do is again talk to him n say that i am goin to trust u again, but dont make the same mistake, n do trust him n try not thinkin he will make the same mistake again...do i make sence? but u need to somehow think of a way to re-kindle that love, if u cant, it will be very very hard if not impossible!
about u sayin u never ashamed ur parents, well jatti kaur, u have to move on from that stage, i know that sounds harsh, but u jus have to! i know its goin over ur mind again n again n u wish "if only u can turn back time" but we cant, so live with what u have n try to make the most of it, nahin? n do hope someday u n ur parents can get back together.
personally i feel that parents r parents no matter how much u hurt them or put their izzat to shame, they will always be there for u. another option is go back to them....say sorry to them. jatti kaur, no matter how old we get, our parents will still see us as their little babbies. if u say sorry to them ur izzat wont b lowered in fact it will increase. have u thought about that?
totally agree with u on ur last paragraph. ppl sayin "if u love some1 enough u should go for it" - so so childish! n one can only hope that ppl learn of mistakes like uve had to unfortunately cope with n not make it themselves.
take care hun
bham da jatt x
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Post by jatti kaur on Feb 24, 2005 7:23:56 GMT
Hi Nick,
Thank you for your advice but do you mind if I was to ask you if your family now that you have approached divorce lawyers….if so how did they react?
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Post by Jatti Kaur on Feb 24, 2005 8:23:36 GMT
Hi Bham da Jatt
Firstly I would like to apologise for calling you bham the jatti….I didn’t mean it…lol!!!!
Hows the studying going….you got loads of assignments to do???
You no something….for your age you are very knowledgeable and have got your head screwed on….its very rare to find that...Especially in a munda!!!
I have tried with talking to him with a family member there but it does help cos he is so good with his words and no's what to say to make me to look as the one that is causing the problems. I no im not prefect I no sometime it is me that causes the problems but I do believe it takes 2 make a marriage work or break…but I feel as if both his and my family think it is always me!!! Which really hurts!
You do make sense but it's easier said then done….you see b4 I got married I lived in fear of my father….you just never knew when he was going to blow…it was like treading on egg shells all the time…he never trusted me at all. And now that I am married it’s the same sort of thing….but not to the same extent….if you no wat I mean?? I hate that...when I married hubby I thought I would get away from that life and be able to live my life the way I wanted to…but I guess I was wrong. I do have a lot more freedom then b4 and in the pass my hubby has made my dreams come true…but still.
Re-kindle the love….I am trying…but its so hard to re-gain the love and trust you once had for some1…but I will keep trying until I can!!
You're so right I am always thinking that I wish I could go back and change things and I no there is no point but i cant help it!!! I truly believe that everything that happens in life it happens for a reason….at the moment I don’t no what that reason is but I guess I will find out sooner or later!!
My family are in my life…you see after I got married there didn’t talk to me for about a year…but I kept on contacting them and now we are all back together…I really don’t no how I survived so long without them….but they are here for me no matter what decision I make...In fact it is after I married hubby I realised how much my dad truly loves me and how much he missed me…we are a lot closer now then we have ever been…I guess something good came out of this marriage if nothing else!!!
Your right no matter how much you hurt your family there will always be there for you. My mum is ready to fight the world for me…I do love my family very dearly and don’t want to do anything else to hurt them…that’s why I am trying so hard to make things work…for their sack…after all they didn’t ask for any of this!!!
It was all my fault….me being stubborn, stupid and naive to think that I was doing the right thing and will live happily ever after cos I was soooo in love and couldn’t live without my hubby….when I think about it now I get so angry at myself but its all in the past now there is nothing I can do about it!! I just have to think about the future and my family!!!
My hubby knows that to an extent the only reason I am still with him is for the sack of my family and that I will always put them b4 him and his family….if that is bad thing then im sorry…but that is the way it is…whether he likes it or not!! I lost them once I am not going to loss them again….not for any1!!!
To be honest with you I really feel all this has happen to me so that I can pass on the msg to others to not make the same mistakes I did….I have learn so much from making this mistake and I have been able to talk to a lot of people about it and have advised them on wat not to do!!! Its just ashamed that I cant change what I have don’t…but I guess that’s life for you….you just have to make to best of what you have got!!!
You take care too
Love Jatti Kaur ;o) x
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Post by bham da jatt on Feb 24, 2005 9:23:40 GMT
Hey jatti kaur, nice to hear from u.
N sorry nick if u thought I was a bit harsh, but I jus totally disagreed with ur advice. Like I said “face the problems don’t run away from them”<br> So...firstly no need to apologise, I assume u were typin fast. Secondly about havin my head srewed on. Well its funny, I must say God’s given me such an easy n happy like compared to most ppl. N usually it’s the ones that have had a tough life that know what they r talking about, but maybe God’s just given me this gift to try my best to help others. N yes ur right, munde r a lot worse than girls, lots more immature in general.
Study...lol...dont ask. Got my dissertation due in shortly, so thought before I start that ill quickly post replies. Ok so to the points u mention...
Firstly uve got to understand that no1 in this world is perfect. Of course ur gonna make mistakes, but don’t let that effect u n the way u r. yes ur right, it takes two to tangle or in Panjabi “taali hamesha doa hathan naal hi vajdhi hai” (u can only clap with 2 hands, not 1). Fine if he’s too good at talking, then u speak to a friend or family of urs that r good at talking n both parties realise that its not about being better than the other in how u talk but its about sorting a future out for urself and ur partner. The 2 ppl that matter in this whole convo!
Its tru before marriage girls can live in fear of their father but what they don’t realise is that that is there for their benefit. N by the time they realise that, its too late; in ur case for example.
About re-kindling the love, well like I said hun, yes it is hard, but try. N I don’t know if im right is sayin this or not. But I do feel that in a strong marriage, in a relationship where there is love, u don’t really have to try, it comes naturally. Do what ur heart tells u, but keep in mind what ur decision will mean for ur future! N stop lookin at ur past jatti kaur, I know that’s a very harsh comment but that is the only way u can get through this. There u r, u said “everything happens for a reason” so live with that moto, live with what u have and try n progress from there! Life is a game hun, the fittest survive. Just live it, n enjoy every moment of it. Live each day as potentially this could be ur last day. Gonna go a bit philosophical here, but Guru Nanak Dev Ji said “hum admi hain ek dhami” which means us humans r of one breath, u take this one, n u don’t know if ur gonna take ur next one. So live with that moto (will shut up in a bit cuz I think im goin off the topic lol), make today ur special day don’t wait till tomorrow. If u want to say “I love u” to him say it now, don’t wait till tomorrow. Actually to some degree I think there is a correlation, hope u can recognise, u may need to think about it for a while.
Its quite typical that when girls get married they become closer to their family, so (not being too harsh) but it was meant to happen no matter who u married. I thought u said that if u decided to finish off ur relationship ur family wouldn’t be there for u? can I suggest u talk to ur mother n father about what ur goin through n ask them for their advice? Don’t know if uve already done that?
Ur sayin ur tryin to make this marriage work for their sake. Well u need to realise u need to make this marriage work for ur sake! I do think ur makin mistakes from ur side hun, n this is one of them. Another one as u mentioned “his family...blah blah blah”. U need to stop havin that approach! U know that’s my only fear in my marriage, id want my wife to realise that this is her family not the one shes left. I know that’s a harsh comment n u can say “uve lived with them all ur life, they r the ones that bought u up n in one moment u say “ur not my family any longer but its my husbands family. What can I say? It’s a tradition, isn’t it? U need to be part of his family. His parents to be ur parents, why r girls so bad at that??
Adding on to this...uve said ur hubbi knows the only reason ur with him is for the sake of ur family. I mean come on jatti kaur...no wonder he’s feeling like he is. Marriage is about two souls, no just two ppl, uve got to work together for each oterh not for the sake of others (yes I mean ur parents’). Please try that. If u sort things out with ur him, who says ur gonna lose ur parents? No that isn’t what u meant is it, but u said it, n I strongly feel u believe it, so get that belief out of ur head ASAP otherwise it will be too late.
Yeap its happened, live with it now n try to make the most of it n stop livin in the past. Couldn’t agree with u any less, talk to others in ur situation before u got married n share ur experience with them.
In summary: Enjoy what u have hun, make the most of it, live everyday as if it were ur last day. Try n make things happen as best as u can. N look after no1 – YOU!!!!!
Luv to u all
Bham da jatt x
PS hope every1 is enjoyin the snow(had to show the kid in me too so ppl know ive just turned 22 n im not 32 lol)
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Post by MissDesi on Feb 24, 2005 16:47:09 GMT
Jatti kaur if u are not happy with him, u need to tell him. As for him not doing anything wrong, if u have tried to talk to him and he ignores u or doesnt want to listen then i think that is very much wrong.
For a marriage to work commication is key. If u havent got that u got nothing. If u are not happy jatti u need to act before u have kids. It wouldnt be fair to them if u stayed in a unhappy marriage.
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Post by bham da jatt on Feb 24, 2005 17:30:16 GMT
miss desi, agree with u to some extent, but uve kinda repeated what u said a while back, havent u?
as for the kids thing, well miss desi, u dont jus get kids at random lol, n im sure jatti kaur knows not to go down that route, not until the marriage is settled.
which has kinda given me another idea, but some ppl on this website r so immature i wont really say it, but i assume u know what im referrin to jatti kaur? well that part of ur marriage life is very important. its upto u if u wish to talk about it, its more of ur personal matter. yes i know im spellin it out, but do visit "Punjab2000/General/Mixed Forum/No sex tonight...." where miss desi n i started talkin about it.
all the best...
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Post by MissDesi on Feb 24, 2005 17:37:45 GMT
the reason i repeated it was because u said that the hubby wanst doing anything wrong. Also this message was to jatti kaur.
Maybe after a while people will be pushing her to have kids? u dont know.
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Post by bham da jatt on Feb 24, 2005 17:42:07 GMT
hey i dont wanna get in a debate with u for no reason miss desi. i did not say that jatti kaur's hubbi was doin nothing wrong. in fact it was jatti kaur that said "u need two to tangle" n i agreed, n i told her the possible things that she was doin wrong.
n as for u sayin "this msg was for jatti kaur", r u havin a go at me?
n as for the kids thing, i cant really imagine any1 pushin her for havin them, but from how jatti kaur talks, its seems quite obvious that shes not easily influenced, shes a strong character.
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Post by MissDesi on Feb 24, 2005 17:52:52 GMT
well i dont really think he's doin anything wrong, is he jatti kaur? if he isnt, then miss desi: he doesnt need any sense knocked in him at all. it needs to be a mutual discussion where i dont think any1 is at wrong, or shall i say ur both at wrong. i would add that the only thing that is gonna get u through it is love, if its not there then try n find it, if u cant find it then like miss desi said, make a decision quickly. ur probably not too old yet to get settled elsewhere, but u might b in a few years.... love, bham da jatt x there u did say that in the first line. Im just saying I posted the message for jatti kaur. The two times I have posted u have replied before her. And she may well be a strong person but u dont know how her mother and father in law may be towards her. I know kids dont happen at random (whatever that means). They might presurised her to have kids. It does happen. Anyhow I dont want to enter a debate out of a debate so I'll leave this thread to everyone else.
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Post by Jatti Kaur on Feb 25, 2005 8:30:59 GMT
Hiya Miss Desi,
Thank you for your advice!!!
In a way I am grateful that these problems that are occurring in my marriage are happening now while we are still a couple and not a family. If however we were a family then the question of leaving hubby wouldn’t even enter my mind. As I truly believe that in order to bring children up both parents are needed. That is why I am being extremely careful…my hubby is desperate for kids and he has basically said that we are going to start trying for them at the end of the year!!! Which im not to sure about to be honest…im not ready to be a mum just yet….I got married too young and I don’t want kids to young!!! If you no what I mean!!
People have already mentioned when we are going to have a child, my in laws have already told a couple of people that we are trying….hell my own family are telling me to hurry up…as im not getting any younger!!! As for hubby he doesn't say anything to me as he know I already no how he feels about kids but he mentions it a lot to my brothers…and he has even tried to get my 12 yr old cousin to pursued me to have them.
Your right I am very unhappy in my marriage im not going to deny it…and even though I haven't recently mentioned it to hubby, for the simply reason he always goes back and tells my family everything, who then have a go at me….saying its all my fault and the fact that he is fully aware of my feelings!!!
With regards to being wrong or right…..I don’t think either of us is wrong or right….like I said before it takes 2 to make a marriage work and to break it…however I do no that if we break up his family will blame me and mine will blame him….but at the end of the day whatever happens between hubby and I….I truly hope that no matter what has happened between us that he and his family are always happy!!!
Love Jatti Kaur x
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Post by Jatti Kaur on Feb 25, 2005 8:31:40 GMT
Bham da jatt,
Yes I like to think that I am a strong minded person and I am not influenced easily…not by a long shot. Therefore both his and my family can say what they want with regards to having kids im not going to do it until I am really….and hubby no's that!!!
Maybe wen I mentioned that my family will always be there for me I should have clarified wat I meant…if we ever split up I have been told by my family that I will come back home not because they want me to be there but because they don’t want the community to turn around and say anything to them….you no what people are like…there always have something to say no matter wat you have done…which really pisses me off!!
Not it is not a harsh comment about reflecting on the past….I guess it’s a bad habit that I have got to get out of…so that I can move on with my life…no matter what happens!! Yeah I do like my moto….I think I better start putting it in practise!! Lol!!!
I have already told my family about my feeling and the problems that we are going through….in fact my hubby has got my family involved in a couple of our arguments. He is very good at the!! If you no what I mean. Anyway my mum is behind me 100% no matter what decision I make but dad on the other hand is not…and the reason for that is because he is worried about what people and his family are going to say to him and about him..when the S#!t hits the fan!!! Which I totally understand!
To be honest with you my family and his family know what hubby is like….they have seen him in action a couple of times…especially his mum…but they wont do anything or say anything to him.
Don’t get me wrong I love my hubby's family…after all they took me in and treat me with such love and respect…I would anything for them…but you have to understand it is not easy for a girl to put he hubby's family b4 her's own…after all she has be brought up by her family and lived with them all her life…it just takes time…but hey im sure you wont have that problem…so try not to worry about it too much….just take each day as it comes!!
I guess the best thing for me to do is take each day as it come and live it like it is your last day…cos you right you don’t no what is around the corner. God knows wats meant to happen in my life so I will leave it to him!!! All I can do is try and deal with situation the best why I no how!
BTW yes I think you are blessed my God with this gift and are using in the right way…if you no wat I mean. I no you said there is no need to thank you but I will anyway….your advice has really helped! I just hope that wat ever happens in my marriage both he and I are happy and can enjoy life to its fully potential.
Love Jatti Kaur
P.s. Happy 22nd Birthday….I hope you had a good one! Now I think you should work on your dissertation as you haven't got long left till you deadline date and you don’t want to be rushing it at the last minute!! Lol!!!
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Post by bham da jatt on Mar 2, 2005 22:45:47 GMT
hey jatti kaur, so sorry for the late reply, i did read ur msg the day u put it up but havent had a chance to reply, jus so busy with uni, anyway...hope ur well hun. glad i judged u well thinkin ur strong, n its such a great quality to have, make sure u dont lose it. society will always look down on ppl with the D word attached to them, but uve gotta ignore that n think about ur own happiness hun. its important that ur happy, cuz as i said b4...look after no1...YOU! its not easy changing the way u r, if uve got a habbit of reflectin on the past, its not gonna b easy gettin away from it, but do try....all the best! its really good that ur parents know about the situation, u will have no idea how much its helpin urself. all i will say is do listen to what both have to say this time, if they so no then they have a good reason, if they say yes then again a good reason, dont forget the wisdom comes with age, hence i talk so childish lol. they have seen ur hubby in action? meaning? i do understand that a girl cant jus make herself paaraee from her family in just one pal, but i do also think girls these days dont put too much effort in at all. im not sayin u arent, but that is what guys generally think, n i do fear that happenin to me. great about ur moto suggested about takin every day as it comes, im sure it will help. all the best really kind of u to still think about his happiness too, i really really do wish it works out. im glad u think my advice has helped, but if there is any1 u want to thank, thank God. u may at times think "why is God doin this to me" but never look at life liek that, think about how lucky u r, cuz there r a lot of ppl out there suffering a lot worse than we r. take care hun, love bham da jatt x
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Post by JattiKaur on Apr 6, 2005 12:53:52 GMT
Hiya Bham da Jatt, Sorry I haven't been in touch in a while a lot has been going on and i haven't had a chance to check out my thread. Hope you are well and studying really hard!!!! What i mean when i said that my family have seen him in action is that a couple of time in the past my hubby has shown his true colours in front of my mum and bhabi. You see he knows how to behave in front of other people so that they think he is a nice guy and that he would never hurt a fly. I can understand your concern with regard to girls not letting go of there family after they get married cos it can affect your marriage and your family. When I was growing up my dad always said to me that this is not your home, your home is where your husband and his family are. I always hated it wen he use to say that cos I thought he said it cos he didn't want me there and didn’t love me. But after I got married I understood why he said it and I am grateful that he did. You see I believe that wen a girl gets married she doesn’t just marry her husband but his family too therefore she has the power to either make the marriage work and the family happy or she can break the family apart. I believe it is important for a girl to be ready to get married, understand the responsibilities of being a wife, bhabi and daughter in law and most of all has an open mind, as these will help her to accept her new life with her husband and help her to put his family before her own. At the same time it is important for a man to explain to a kurri what his family means to him and how he would like her to be towards them, so that she can have an idea of what he would like from her. Even though I had a love marriage, b4 I got married my hubby told me what his family were like and what they meant to him. This help me to understand what he wanted from me and how I could be a good wife and daughter in law towards his family….but this can only be achieve if the girl is willing to do so!!! BTW I am still using my moto to take each day as it comes….just in case you were wondering. Take care Jatti Kaur xx
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Post by bham da jatt on Apr 12, 2005 17:23:52 GMT
nice to hear from u after such a while jatti kaur, ur thread missed u lol. u say a lot has been goin on, hope all is well its always good when a person's tru colours shine. personally i dont liek to let some1 fly beneath my nose n get away with it. perhaps cuz of that i always like every1 being honest with me all the time. yes defo...ive said on many other threads that marriage is not between 2 individuals but between 2 families. im glad ur father said those words of wisdom to u, as they r very much tru. and im sure u will notice the parents that dont make their daughters aware of that do later struggle more in their married lives. umm...not so sure about what u said in ur next paragraph. i dont think its for a guy to tell his wife what he expects of her in her new family. i think its for the girl to be able to make that judgement, if shes struggling to then by all means ask, n expect him to talk to u about it n explain. if he jus tells her what he expects, then thats really unfair i think for the girl. also as well as the girl perhaps needing to make some sacrifices, the family shuld also. marriage is about sacrificing for each other to live a happy life. well done hun to hold onto ur moto, i hope its helping. like i said, if there is anything i can do to make a person feel better then all i am doing is fulfilling my role as a good Sikh and a good human. take care, luv bham da jatt x
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Post by fantasy on May 8, 2005 20:41:51 GMT
i swear man u lot give fliipin essays!!haha wer u dis gud in skool!!haha...naahhh keep goin
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Post by MissDesi on Jul 4, 2005 20:46:58 GMT
So what happened?
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Post by life on Jul 6, 2005 18:09:10 GMT
hiya huni. I feel real sori for you and i feel like is mesed up every1 is sad. i tink u and him shud try 2 work it out but if not try and go bk hme 4 a bit hv ur space, coz mayb dat is what u nid sum space. im in a bad situation and life aint gud 4 m. i wid dus guy he is maried in india he was forced i know about it, but he told me he had a civil weding not a indian one (but i jus found out yday he had a indian one) he lied to me i feel rewaly hurt and hus mises is cumin. thre is no future 4us but i cnt let him go. if i stay im hurtin myself but if i go i hv to be string. he says he wants me he dnt cre bout her we cnt b mates wot u tink?
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Post by life on Jul 6, 2005 18:10:27 GMT
hiya huni. I feel real sori for you and i feel like is mesed up every1 is sad. i tink u and him shud try 2 work it out but if not try and go bk hme 4 a bit hv ur space, coz mayb dat is what u nid sum space. im in a bad situation and life aint gud 4 m. i wid dus guy he is maried in india he was forced i know about it, but he told me he had a civil weding not a indian one (but i jus found out yday he had a indian one) he lied to me i feel rewaly hurt and hus mises is cumin. thre is no future 4us but i cnt let him go. if i stay im hurtin myself but if i go i hv to be string. he says he wants me he dnt cre bout her we cnt b mates wot u tink?
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Post by life on Jul 6, 2005 19:04:33 GMT
hiya
jus wana agree wid jatti kaur coz she is rite bham da jat is very knowlegable and does hv his hand screwed on. and i wish him al da best. xx
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Post by bham da jatt on Jul 9, 2005 19:47:38 GMT
aww thanks life, i appreciate ur comments - very sweet of u to say that.
i wont say ive seen in lot in life, cuz to be honest with u, God's given me a very easy life for which im very grateful - compared to other ppl i know life's treated me very well n i do give that credit to my faith in Waheguru.
anyway, take care, thanks again, need anything, u know where i am
bham da jatt
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Post by Desi Tiger on Oct 1, 2005 19:16:06 GMT
i swear man u lot give fliipin essays!!haha wer u dis gud in skool!!haha...naahhh keep goin LOLL...INIT
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Post by rahullll on Oct 22, 2005 21:13:19 GMT
I wuld suggest you to move on no matter what caz this relationship will caz u and others pain.
Its better to be in pain for some time then a lifetime.
Its always hard we all know but got to do it for the better of all.
I always feel caste is imp esp if its totally opposite. Some religions have certain common rituals beliefs in that case marriages could work but u got to correct what u did wrong. so go ahead and do what u have to.
All the best.
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Post by thatdaku on Oct 24, 2005 23:00:17 GMT
f**kING HELL, U MADE YOUR BED, SO GO f**kING LIE ON IT, U SHOULD BE ABLE 2 MAKE YOUR OWN MIND, U DID THAT WHEN U f**kIN MARRIED HIM. YOUR PARENTZ DONT WANT U 2 LEAVE HIM COZ ITS MORE EMBARESMENT FOR THOSE POOR PEEPS, FIRST U MARRY HIM AND CAUSE BEZTI, NOW U WANT 2 LEAVE HIM AND CAUSE BEZTI, YOUR PARENTS ARE SCARED PEEPS WILL THINK U JUS A LEGS WIDE OPEN very *friendly* person 4 GUJI GUYS.
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Post by dallysmrs on Mar 6, 2007 21:05:35 GMT
hey jatti kaur
firstli i wanna apologise in advance if i say sumit 2 offened you or any one else.
now 2 the point i'd advise u 2 give it another go but think about it deepli is der no way 2 solve it. sumtimes u jus need space go on holiday for a while a week 2 weeks jus get sum time to your self think about it and then come bk and give it a go but if u still feel the same and u still feel uncomfatable bein with him then i'd leave him but as much as i'd stress 2 u do wtever it tkes 2 mke it wrk things chnge ur always liotereli in each others pockets after gettin married as wer b4 marriage u never reali new the ins n outs of each other thats y i would strongli advise u 2 get away for a bit go on holiday think about it n then mke a decsion dnt mke a descion in the heat of a moment u'll onli once again regret it. but if i'm not bein personal have u got ur eye on sum1 else in this period cuz sumtimes u havin ur attention n attraction sumwer else can cause conflict n distance between ur marriage.
but im stronli advisin u get sum space go on holiday n think abt wt u want jus u n a few friends leave ur husband at home u jus need ur own space not him in ur pocket or u not in his pocket.
hope u undastand n hope it works out for u all the best bbez. good luck.
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