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Post by msscandalous on May 14, 2007 9:02:25 GMT
Ayt.......i always thought i cud deal wit this kinda thing but this is sum other crap...
Now My chacha got me a greaaat office job (after lyk 3 other rejections) n infact i was able to get ma BF a job in the same accounts dept. too! (nobody knows who we are though...) but recently the gora boss keeps throwin me these horny looks n often overlooks the mistakes i make saying "nothin that can't be fixed" while hefired sumone last month for committing the same mistake...
Last week he asked me stay behind after working hours to help him sort the invoices ...this was strange coz i clearly rememberd sorting them out earlier that day with my Head...anyways not wanting to piss him off...i stayed back...but guess what? after two mins. of conversation about work he says,'' Oh i jus remembered, I already got the report for the invoices from Ms. Watkins....I apologize!...so anyways since u did go thru the trouble of stayin u wanna go grab a coffee or sumthin?... ''
f**kin S#!t! I refused obviously but he kept on insistin...offered to drop me home if I get late...after much resistance I drove straight home
On saturday, he bought me an evening dress saying he expects me to wear it on his birthday on Friday this week....(kutte dha putt)...i told ma boyfrend about this n he says I shud tell the man off.
Now i won't giv S#!t about the job if it comes to quittin but I work hard n shudn't hav to quit if I didn't do nothin wrong!....how can i get rid of him without losing my job anyways?....I mean I really luv the job coz it pays really well
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Post by jatti05 on May 14, 2007 9:05:18 GMT
OMG dis is bad!!! u shud complain but then hu 2? daaaaaym!
cnt believe he bought u an EVENING DRESS!! ewwwwwwwww dirty bastrd!
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Post by msscandalous on May 14, 2007 9:19:00 GMT
oh cum on don rub it in now...jus help as bad as it is!
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Post by jatti05 on May 14, 2007 9:20:06 GMT
is dat all ur bf sed 2 u??? to tell him off?
isnt there a biger boss hu u can complain 2?
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Post by jatti05 on May 14, 2007 9:25:06 GMT
.......y dnt u take ur bf with u and tlk 2 ur boss and tell him 2 bak off o sumtin?
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Post by msscandalous on May 14, 2007 9:38:28 GMT
i went to return his dress back after office hours n took ma bf wit me who was drunk n said a thing or two to the gora...now the gora is a 24 year-old bloody millionaire who is the director of the company n his mumz indian n is my chachi's sister though we don talk to 'em no more...worse thing is this guy n I sort of have history like u know in high school I used to have a crush on him ...he broke ma heart..n now he makes me sick...ma bf thinks I am not over him yet...anyways the gora knows about ma bf but doesn't care coz he knows ma bf sort of has anger management issues n is on probation...it's complex!...but please if u have a way wit words jus lemme kno otherwise i'll certainly quit...
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Post by jatti05 on May 14, 2007 9:40:45 GMT
aww hun dats not fair at all...u shudnt hav 2 quit bcuz he aint ova u....i no its worse now that ur bf thinks ur not ova him...im sory i duno wat u cn do but sum1 on ea will...dnt wori bou it im sure u'll find a way 2 keep ur job and get him off u...x
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Post by 56 on May 14, 2007 11:14:24 GMT
ok......my boss buys me hot choc and lunch all the time she never ever lets me pay (i return the favour by giving her some of my mums yummy roti and saag)
i brought her kids some sexy suits from india
btw my boss is a lady.....and we both seem to just get on well
i stay late all the time
she gets me drunk on wine when im at hers
mmmmm after reading this maybe she is sexual harrassing me wooooooooooo wish cz id marry her, shes mega minted
nah seriously, dont leave prehaps u shud report him. i hate slimey pervs like that. we have then here.....our ED says nasty things to me but i know he says it by mistake i just ignore him. i think u need to report him or just have a slight chat and inform him how uncomfortable he makes u feel.
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Post by Bunnypie on May 14, 2007 12:32:15 GMT
please if u have a way wit words jus lemme kno otherwise i'll certainly quit... 
Let me just read through your posts again, and then I will most certainly try my best to advise you. Ok, let me read the posts, n il reply. |
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Post by Bunnypie on May 14, 2007 12:57:49 GMT
Hiya,
Having read your posts thoroughly, you do have a few options. Obviously it is for you to decide which option best suits you.
The first thing I do advise you do is keep a documetation of everything that happens. You need to keep a record of dates, times, places and what happens. It may seem silly but even the stuff like when he looks at you, or asks you to stay behind. All this can be vital information.
I also suggest that once you have a history of events, that you call/see your local Citizens Advice Bureau. Remember, they are there to help you! The Bureau will need a history of times/plces/events, hence why the recordings are important.
I know all this may seem a bit long winded, but if you are looking for a short-term solution, then I do suggest you speak to the Citizens Advice Bureau, or alternatiovrly tell you chacha Ji, I knwow ti may be difficult for you to do this, but you do not need to tell him the details, just tell him that your boss is a sleeze.
Anyway, have a read of this. You can always PM me andI can give you some numbers for people who can help!
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Post by jatti05 on May 15, 2007 8:42:06 GMT
dats ryt...se i new bunnypie wud cum 2 da rescue she alwais dus. i mean im sure ur chacha will do umtin bou it...if ur not comfortable he'd sort it ryt |
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Post by Bunnypie on May 15, 2007 10:49:05 GMT
^^ ;D ;D ;D ;D
P.S You know the recordings I was talking about, even they will be proof IF you decide to talk to your chach ji. I mean is there anyone else you really trust, and you can talk too?
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Post by 56 on May 15, 2007 12:01:54 GMT
i told my boss about this, proper difficult one i have to say. i can never imagine this happening wer i work
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Post by Bunnypie on May 15, 2007 13:26:28 GMT
^^It is so easy to sit here and speak about it, when you are not emotionally involved. However, I do think that advice from someonw who is not emotionally involved does help. At the end of the day, we cannot TELL her what do it. We can advise, and if she decides she wants to action our advice, then that is totally her choice.
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Post by 56 on May 15, 2007 15:09:39 GMT
why does ur font have to big soo big? the lady 2 desks away can read it
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Post by 007singh on May 15, 2007 15:10:14 GMT
init LMAOOO
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Post by Bunnypie on May 15, 2007 15:12:54 GMT
^^Ummm sowwi!! 
P.S Is that beta?
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Post by 56 on May 15, 2007 15:14:54 GMT
yeah sorry, i just try and go on the net under cover
but yeah ur right. some1 gave me a lecture last night.....u cant advise unless u have gone thru the same thing. otherwise what ur saying doesnt help and just goes out of the other ear
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Post by Bunnypie on May 15, 2007 15:36:13 GMT
^^I disagree with that. You can always advise, whether u have been in the same situation or not. Sometimes, the best advice one can offer is when you are not emotionally involved, nor been in the same situation. It all depends on whether the individual thinks that the advice will help in their situation.
As I have said earlier, she doesnt have to take the advice, but it is there for her, if she chooses. Advice is just a suggestion.
When you go to see a counsellor, they are not emotionally involved, and many of them have not been in the situation before, but they still advise.. so I do disagree with your statement. Sorry.
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Post by 56 on May 15, 2007 16:06:13 GMT
well i shud ellaborate.....relationship issue wise not general life issues
like i hate it when....u knw when u have an argument with ur bf and u think its over and u tell ur mate and they say
dont worry he is no good u will meet some1 new
im like.........euuuuk thats not what i wna hear
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Post by Bunnypie on May 15, 2007 16:18:29 GMT
^^Oh relationship wise. Umm well, its difficult.
Ok, well lets use the example that you did, with you having an argument with your BF. You turn your friend... and tell you something you do not want to hear.
Well, have u eva thought that what he/she has advised is the best thing. It may not be what you WANT to hear, but maybe its something you SHOULD listen to? It may not be easy, but it may be for the best!
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Post by 56 on May 15, 2007 16:20:30 GMT
i think the best person who gives me advice is my mum or people at work not my friends or ne1 i know 25 or under....but the great things about friends is they are always there for u
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Post by Bunnypie on May 15, 2007 16:25:27 GMT
^^One thing I have learnt over time is that you cannot trust any1 but ur mummyji!! 
She is the one n only person that u can tell the worst thing to, but she will never hate you, or be angry or anythin. I love my mummyji!
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Post by 56 on May 15, 2007 17:48:33 GMT
i know and to add to your lost never judge.....all about motherly love trust me. i agree with all what u said, trust me. she is the only one i can talk to in the whole world about things
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Post by 5abikuri10 on May 15, 2007 19:05:03 GMT
Ayt.......i always thought i cud deal wit this kinda thing but this is sum other crap... Now My chacha got me a greaaat office job (after lyk 3 other rejections) n infact i was able to get ma BF a job in the same accounts dept. too! (nobody knows who we are though...) but recently the gora boss keeps throwin me these horny looks n often overlooks the mistakes i make saying "nothin that can't be fixed" while hefired sumone last month for committing the same mistake... Last week he asked me stay behind after working hours to help him sort the invoices ...this was strange coz i clearly rememberd sorting them out earlier that day with my Head...anyways not wanting to piss him off...i stayed back...but guess what? after two mins. of conversation about work he says,'' Oh i jus remembered, I already got the report for the invoices from Ms. Watkins....I apologize!...so anyways since u did go thru the trouble of stayin u wanna go grab a coffee or sumthin?... '' f**kin S#!t! I refused obviously but he kept on insistin...offered to drop me home if I get late...after much resistance I drove straight home On saturday, he bought me an evening dress saying he expects me to wear it on his birthday on Friday this week....(kutte dha putt)...i told ma boyfrend about this n he says I shud tell the man off. Now i won't giv S#!t about the job if it comes to quittin but I work hard n shudn't hav to quit if I didn't do nothin wrong!....how can i get rid of him without losing my job anyways?....I mean I really luv the job coz it pays really well KKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK LOL |
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