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Post by Jattboy on Jan 11, 2005 17:22:39 GMT
HI very interesting topic, but i'd like to add my side of the story and my personal experiences, as a young lad in my teens i never ever fancied asian girls, i dont know why but it might have soimething to do with me not having many asian friends and living in a predominantly white area, My folks had always expected me to go out and get hooked up with a white girl (again no idea why) but as i grew up alittle and started work i met this gorgeous and lovely Indian girl, we seemed to get on well and she said she liked me because i wasnt like a typical asian guy (whatever one of them is) but anyway as days passed we got closer and closer and then before we knew it we were going out with each other and were happily and madly in love, she wasnt perfect but neither am i so it didnt matter, anyway before we knew it we had been going out with each other for almost 2 years, my parents knew about her from day 1 and had met her hundreds of times and i knew they were both proud and pleased that their lil son had found an Indian Jatt girl so this in turn made me happy because i was madly in love and my folks were happy (what more could a guy ask for??). One day my Girlfriend said she thought it was about time that her parents found out about me, i was a bit reluctant to this as she said that when her parents found out and accepted we'd prob get engaged within a month, at first the prospect was daunting but i thought long and hard about it and decided that if it meant engagement so be it because we were madly in love, so before she told her folks me and my parents went out and spent a fortune on gifts and stuff for her family and the engagement, and nerves were kicking in but all was well. Anyway the day came when she told her parents, at 1st all was well her parents agreed and saw pics of me and they told her they were so happy for her and this in turn made us so happy i could have cried and then all of a sudden about 4-5 days later her mom decided that because her Mama said no to the marriage because my surname was the same as her moms maiden name all was off and she was no longer to have anything to do with me, rather than fight against her parents she went with them for fear of being disownhed, so just like that the relationship was over and we "would both have to find ways of falling out of love". For several months i fought and fought to get her back but she made it clear it wasnt going to happen as she'd rather lose me than her family. So after 7-8 months of deep depression i started to get back to normal. Now i know alot of people wont agree with this but because of the situation and hurt that i had to go through its completely put me off indian girls and im sorry to say i dont think i could go out with another indian girl again through the fear of it all happening again as only i know how close i came to not being here anymore, so for me i honestly think i will end up getting with a white girl because i could bot go through it again, my parents both agreed that because they saw and felt what i had to go thru it would now be my choice what coulour, caste or religion i found a girl from and as long as i was love they would be happy for me. So in my situation im not looking for a white girl because i want an easy sh*g, its just that im so scared of these silly asian traditions that ruin so many young people, but one thing i myst agree on without a doubt is that Asian girls are alot more prettier than white girls but with most asian girls i feel there is alot of excess baggage that has to be carried around and because of that im sorry but i dont think i could go with another asian, whereas white girls are more laid back and if they love u, they really do love u and nothing will get in the way to stop things. The point of my story is that not all white girls look for an easy sh*g and not all asian men go after white girls just so that they can use them as a trophy as i feel there's prob alot more like me out there but are afraid to speak up. You should be free to choose whatver colour u like and not be criticised.
thankyou and sorry its long.
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Post by G'Work$ on Jan 11, 2005 17:42:17 GMT
HI very interesting topic, but i'd like to add my side of the story and my personal experiences, as a young lad in my teens i never ever fancied asian girls, i dont know why but it might have soimething to do with me not having many asian friends and living in a predominantly white area, My folks had always expected me to go out and get hooked up with a white girl (again no idea why) but as i grew up alittle and started work i met this gorgeous and lovely Indian girl, we seemed to get on well and she said she liked me because i wasnt like a typical asian guy (whatever one of them is) but anyway as days passed we got closer and closer and then before we knew it we were going out with each other and were happily and madly in love, she wasnt perfect but neither am i so it didnt matter, anyway before we knew it we had been going out with each other for almost 2 years, my parents knew about her from day 1 and had met her hundreds of times and i knew they were both proud and pleased that their lil son had found an Indian Jatt girl so this in turn made me happy because i was madly in love and my folks were happy (what more could a guy ask for??). One day my Girlfriend said she thought it was about time that her parents found out about me, i was a bit reluctant to this as she said that when her parents found out and accepted we'd prob get engaged within a month, at first the prospect was daunting but i thought long and hard about it and decided that if it meant engagement so be it because we were madly in love, so before she told her folks me and my parents went out and spent a fortune on gifts and stuff for her family and the engagement, and nerves were kicking in but all was well. Anyway the day came when she told her parents, at 1st all was well her parents agreed and saw pics of me and they told her they were so happy for her and this in turn made us so happy i could have cried and then all of a sudden about 4-5 days later her mom decided that because her Mama said no to the marriage because my surname was the same as her moms maiden name all was off and she was no longer to have anything to do with me, rather than fight against her parents she went with them for fear of being disownhed, so just like that the relationship was over and we "would both have to find ways of falling out of love". For several months i fought and fought to get her back but she made it clear it wasnt going to happen as she'd rather lose me than her family. So after 7-8 months of deep depression i started to get back to normal. Now i know alot of people wont agree with this but because of the situation and hurt that i had to go through its completely put me off indian girls and im sorry to say i dont think i could go out with another indian girl again through the fear of it all happening again as only i know how close i came to not being here anymore, so for me i honestly think i will end up getting with a white girl because i could bot go through it again, my parents both agreed that because they saw and felt what i had to go thru it would now be my choice what coulour, caste or religion i found a girl from and as long as i was love they would be happy for me. So in my situation im not looking for a white girl because i want an easy sh*g, its just that im so scared of these silly asian traditions that ruin so many young people, but one thing i myst agree on without a doubt is that Asian girls are alot more prettier than white girls but with most asian girls i feel there is alot of excess baggage that has to be carried around and because of that im sorry but i dont think i could go with another asian, whereas white girls are more laid back and if they love u, they really do love u and nothing will get in the way to stop things. The point of my story is that not all white girls look for an easy sh*g and not all asian men go after white girls just so that they can use them as a trophy as i feel there's prob alot more like me out there but are afraid to speak up. You should be free to choose whatver colour u like and not be criticised. thankyou and sorry its long. brother thats very sad story, i can understand your hurt i've have had my fair share of heartache. but what you said towards the end.... "The point of my story is that not all white girls look for an easy sh*g and not all asian men go after white girls just so that they can use them as a trophy as i feel there's prob alot more like me out there but are afraid to speak up. You should be free to choose whatver colour u like and not be criticised." this statement i totally agree with, you sound like a open minded guy that isn't ignorant to the real world. safe.
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Post by east london kuri on Jan 11, 2005 18:45:11 GMT
Beef- go back and read the first paragraph of what I wrote, then honey you might understand that I could not care less of whether asian guys got with white girls-and that I do believe a lot of them will.
So baby why don't you go back to Newham college and try a reading course-hang on thats if you get in.
In future don't assume you know where i studied or what qualifications I have-becuase to be honest I think you might be sweetly surprised.
x
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Post by G'Work$ on Jan 11, 2005 20:27:11 GMT
Beef- go back and read the first paragraph of what I wrote, then honey you might understand that I could not care less of whether asian guys got with white girls-and that I do believe a lot of them will. So baby why don't you go back to Newham college and try a reading course-hang on thats if you get in. In future don't assume you know where i studied or what qualifications I have-becuase to be honest I think you might be sweetly surprised. x well if you read what i wrote to you properly, you would have understood what i was refering too ;D i.e the second paragraph. "Its true asian boys do like white girls because they're values and morals are completely different to us asian kuria, guys want a no-strings-attatched kind of fling, and they're prepared to do just that. so lets just leave them to it, because girls at the end of the day, every asain guy out there simply wants a sidhi sadthi kuri that he can take home to his mum." now the first paragraph yes i do totally 100% agree with you, i am not faulting you on that. BUT for you to say asian boys like white girls just because they want to get their leg over is total bulls**t, what proof do you have to show that every all asian guy is like this!? not every asian guy wants to marry an asian girl, i for one don't want to marry one. so in future unless you have proof don't stereotype, because i'm pretty sure if you actually said that to a few guys they probably tell you what for. anyway i have no interest in what you study or where you study even if you have studied, i just put a cheap joke to livin it up a bit ;D you can't be that bright if you didn't taken it lightly. you take care n stay blessed peace.
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Post by anonymous person on Jan 15, 2005 21:11:41 GMT
firstly the question rasied for discussion is certainly one that i consider to be unnacceptable in today's british society. there is no doubt that there is an element of racism, which i particularly find it hard to tolerate.
somebody needs to get through to the dumb motherf**king host who started all this racist bullS#!tt!
i take it that this issue is surrounding dating, which is why i must say that all this fuking talk is so detached from my world. half the people were talking f**king crap (all coming out thier ass) that i am so unfamiliar with. I honestly felt alienated by reading these replies.
Here is a fact that will raise eyebrows, make some people shut the f**k up and for others maybe raise a new area of thought. The fact is that female are nothing but spiteful and disgusting creatures living on this planet. i say kill the all the bit*hes. nothing but hoes...very *friendly* persons...nymphomaniacs...kill em! dont worry im not denying it at all im pure 100% misogynist.
im sure that deep down inside most men will entirely share my views to the fullest!
SUPPORTING ABORTIONISTS FOR THIER PRACTICE OF ABORTION!!!
goodbye
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Post by Dee on Jan 16, 2005 20:18:30 GMT
wow!!! wow!! wow!! CHILL!!!!................ go n ave sme drugs m8!!! den cme on dis site! N u have SCH A FOWL MOUTH! GO N SORT UR ENGLISH OUT!!
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Post by fantasy on Jan 24, 2005 13:58:53 GMT
hi i was reading this topics and founf it very intresting, i am a gyal who is mixed race half white and half asian, i personally think that it all is to do with the way ou are brought up.
i do agree dat asian guys do go wid white gyals only as itis seen as AN EZY OPTION. dey are more likeky to get pleasure from them than a asian gyal, dey dont have to worry about parents or bruvas finding out eva.
Whereas. asian girls are brought up to be respectable and also have limits as to what they would and wouldnt do.
so white gyals dont go tinkin yea dey all want you.dey only want what you are willing to give.EVERYTHING.
ASIAN GYALS IF YOUR WID ME AND AGREE LET ME NO!!1.
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Post by bham da jatt on Jan 24, 2005 17:50:37 GMT
hey, i agree with u to some extent, but think uve generalised too much. not all white girls r slags n not all asian girls r as pavitar as parvati (1 way of puttin it). uve got a mixed bunch in both races, all for that matter. but in the context of the question, i think mayb for datin it might not b wrong, wouldnt do it myself though, but marriage...becomes a totally different ball game. n yeah, for that guy completely slaggin off females, u need to sort ur head out. we do need them, they r an important part of our lives. as a kid, i couldnt live without my mother, as a young man i cant live without my mother or partner n when ill be a father i wont b able to live without all three of them. )
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Post by fantasy agen on Jan 26, 2005 10:53:02 GMT
dis is 4u bham a jaat1
yea i agree wid wot ure sayin.not all white gyals r slags.after all we dont no the whole worlds white population. its just most white gyals wiv cum across i think.
but then agen i carnt totaly have asian gyals backs cuz i also no bare pakis and sikhs who have slept wid soooo many guys aswell . but what they do is up2 dem n yea dey shols all no betta as therre the ones who will have to face god and ansa to there actions.INNIT!
AND JUST LIKE YOU ID NEVER GO OUT WID A WHITE GUY.BUT MY MUMS WHITS AND MY DADS PALISTANI.N DER MARRIEDBUT THEYVE HAD ME N TRUST ME IT CAN BE HARD AND VERY CONFUSING!!repl back id like to hear from youx
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Post by asiansweet on Jan 26, 2005 12:14:51 GMT
asian guyz only go for white gurls cuz der easy ad up for a quick shag dats all u lot luk at da wrong asian lasses !!!!!
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Post by Tiger on Feb 2, 2005 15:38:12 GMT
It all about asian kuri allow goria they just dirty but it shudnt jus be about getting you r leg ova for a lot of guys it is shudnt hav that sorta attitude about personally to not jus buffness ...!
ezzy
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Post by bummtingzz on Feb 4, 2005 11:16:42 GMT
ANON PERSON---> SUM1Z GOT ISSUES... MAN U SOUND LIKE SUM FUKT UP PERSON DAT NEED PROPA HELP... U FKIN PSYCHOO talk bout women like dat... gt noo respect luk at urself u lowlife... da only spiteful and disgusting creatures on this planet are people like U... lool ur 100% misogynist wel let me tell uu 99.9% of da world hates U kill all da bit*hes?? da BIGGEST bit*h IV COME ACROS IS U... run bitcch am cominnn
come on here finkin ur all dat wit ur weird lingo and foul mouth... man da only person talkin shyt on here is U... and da only reason u felt "alienated" was bcuz ur mind is full of shyt an u cant relate to utha NORMAL people...
and ur ODD
netin normal will feel abnormal to u
i gess ul get used to it
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Post by bham da jatt on Feb 4, 2005 18:24:24 GMT
fantasy agen- firstly so sorry for replyin so late, lot of uni work on, but ill go straight to the point... yes i think ur quite right in sayin there r plenty on sikh n muslim girls, id add hindu girls to the list too. like i said previously, it cant b generalised. u will have very *friendly* persons (sorry for the harsh word) in all races, but i will still say that there r less in asians than whites at the moment, dont know if that will last though... n i coudlnt put it beta than what u said - we all have to give an answer to Waheguru/Allah/God...but i dont think today's generation think about that when they get into bed... in terms of long term commitement, yes i can imagine how difficult it must be at times being of a mix race, please dont take it the wrong way, but in panjabi there is an old sayin "tobhi dha kutha na ghar da na ghaat dha", i wont tell u its literal meaning, but its implication is that it kinda leaves u nowhere. we may agree to marry a white person for example, n might b able to fight the battles in upto marryin them, but then when it comes to havin ur children, we can realise how hard it really is. hope ive not said anything too harsh, apologies if i have fantasy agen. take care
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Post by Ritzy on Feb 15, 2005 17:17:44 GMT
Most asian guys not all do go out with white girls to get their leg over....sad but tru ( the ones who are man enuff admit it themselves) my mate is going out witha white guy and she has had bare grief from apnay munday cuz of it, fair enuff u may say but what i dont get is that over half of them are going out with a white girl or have been out with a white girl themselves!!! im confused man....double standards or wot! practice what you preach i say, if u guna diss others doing it then don't do it urself! x
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Post by bham da jatt on Feb 17, 2005 13:17:56 GMT
i do think that u cant have one rule for guys n another for girls, thats so out of order! so yes ritzy i agree with u in that. however, i dont think that "most" asian guys go out with white gals, as u said over half do. i dont think thats right, maybe i can just say from where i am from in bham, i hardly see it happen b it in town, uni n i didnt see it when i was in college either.
so i will say, it isnt as common as u may think it is, its jus that they r more noticeable, so they stick in our heads.
but no, there should n one rule for girls n guys, n i think that is that it shouldnt happen....
bham da jatt x
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Post by Ritzy on Feb 17, 2005 13:41:58 GMT
sori bham da jatt i think u misunderstood me wen i sed 'most' asian guys..leme rephrase myself...by dat i didnt mean most asian guys overall, i meant that outa the ones that do date white girls, most of THEM are doing it to get their leg over! n im glad u agree bout the double standards....most guys don't c it like dat x
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Post by asiansweet on Feb 17, 2005 13:50:37 GMT
its true most guys only go for white gals bcoz they are easy and the white gurls listen to everything u say and they do what u say!!!!
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Post by bham da jatt on Feb 17, 2005 13:55:11 GMT
sorry ritzy, i did misunderstand u, apologises.
at the end of the day there will always be guys n girls that jus wanna have fun n f*** about, nothin can b done about that, its upto them...
asiansweet, still think its a bit harsh to put all white girls into the same category. no offence but i think there r plenty of asian girls out there like that n i wouldnt like to say that white girls dont have hearts, thats harsh...
bham da jatt x
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Post by Ritzy on Feb 17, 2005 14:03:44 GMT
I agree not all white girls are slags and to be honest you can't judge them by our standards...we come from an asian mentality, they see things from a westernised mentality....so how can you compare the two lifestyles against one anutha and diss one more than the other...im sure theyve got plenty to say bout our ways of doing things the bottom line is that apnay munday who use them for their 'pleasure' shall we say, are the ones in the wrong screw bout then marry a gu lil apni who'l luk after them, their family, the house blah blah blah.... well if thats wot u want then mayb u shud also stick to ur principles and follow the same rules cuz at the end of the day, apniyan kuriyan also want a nice lad who hasn't been around works both ways i guess n don't start misinterpreting what i've sed this time!!! lol x
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Post by bham da jatt on Feb 17, 2005 15:47:04 GMT
lol...no i wont hopefully.
yeah i guess uve touched on another matter, which im sure i put a post up on another subject. which was simply statin that its not right for non-virgin asian guys to ask for virgin asian girls. so out of order! if the rules apply for the girls then they apply for the guys too, i know most guys will probs disagree with me on that, in fact ive come across many girls that have disagreed me on that, which really does surprise me!!
at the end of the day, ive uve done it with some1, then expect ur married partner to have done it, n if u havent, even if ur a girl, then expect ur married partner to have not done it either.
better stop, driftin away from the actual subject...
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Post by Ritzy on Feb 17, 2005 16:14:35 GMT
yeh u kinda driftin from the subject ...even though i started it! lol but i agree with wot u say as for girls agreeing with you...prob the way theyv bin bought up cuz ur always told it dont matter if the guy's messed around, but ur not supposed to do it - confusion sets in here cuz if ur not supposed to do it, but it dont matter if munday do it, then they obviously guna go for white/black etc girls arent they?? i duno i dont think either shud do it! its always guna b more special if u wait til after marriage aint it? i know sum of u will disagree but thats wot i think so tuff! lol x
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Post by bham da jatt on Feb 17, 2005 16:45:01 GMT
ok....now we r blatantly talkin about sex before marriage, so i wont comment. but i will very briefly (if i may lol) say that yes ur right, most ppl will disagree with u on what uve jus said, there r very few ppl out there like u today i think, particularly guys, but hey, i am with u on this one. it is more special if one does it after marriage for the first time. any more discussion on this then mayb we should open another discussion ritzy, or im sure there is already one opened.
but to the subject...i dont think asian guys with white gals is as common as ppl might think. mayb at college n stuff, but very few cases of at uni life or even fewer when it comes to marriage.
nice to know ur opinions though ritzy.
take care, bham da jatt x
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Post by Ritzy agen on Feb 18, 2005 11:26:25 GMT
I think we totally went off the subject there but never mind!!!!! getting bak to the question and ur comments, i think ur rite in that there aren't many apnay munday with white girls, n also apniyan with goray munday......and yes they stick out more cuz it's noticeable but everyone to their own..........the only prob is why are they doing it... if it's for the rite reasons fair play if it's just to get their leg over...then it's time to get the beilna out!!!! lol ;D ;D x
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Post by Houstonguy34US on Feb 18, 2005 20:42:35 GMT
Anyone from Houston here ?
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Post by Houstonguy34US on Feb 18, 2005 20:53:41 GMT
Anyone from Houston here ?
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