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Post by SikhKuri on Sept 28, 2004 9:21:39 GMT
Im in my second yr of uni n i've bin checkin dis guy 4 2yrs! Im jatt n he's saini, we propa love each otha! I woz considerin tellin my parents bout me n him but day found out b4 i gt 2 tell dem, n day r propa against me n him due to his caste!!! which i think is pure bullS#!t! well neway his mu rang my mu n sed luk day propa love each otha we mite aswell srt out dair rishta but my mum disagreed so his parents have got him married of 2 sum gyal 4rm india.  I dnt no wot 2 do no coz even tho he's married, i still love him n he tld me dat he still loves me! i dnt no whether 2 4get bout everyting n try 2 move on or wot im so confussed!!!!  |
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Post by Chameli on Oct 16, 2004 21:42:34 GMT
If he couldn't fight for you what the hell are you thinking........if he loved you enough he would be there. Do you want to break his marriage  ??  If you do then i hope you can live with the consequences... I still think you will find some even better , be hopeful and takecare cos your prince will come one day. chameli xxxx |
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Post by aliens on Dec 2, 2004 14:03:42 GMT
forget about it, not worth it!
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Post by Summan on Dec 13, 2004 13:06:03 GMT
sorry to hear the story hun.
worst thing is- its happened, the dust has settled, and the issue still stands. but it shouldnt. i think what has happened- happened for the best. its given u a chance to move on to better things, and also u would be such a better person if u stood back and respected his marriage, respected his wife (who was, and probably still is, the victim in this...she got dragged in with no knowledge). this guy- ur ex- still agreed to marriage, put his tie on and carried the laavan at the gurudwara on the day of his wedding....those are the facts u shud live off.
case closed. be happy. its a cruel world
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Post by sim on Dec 24, 2004 20:06:44 GMT
Girl.........Go for it !!!!
follow your heart, hey u only live once
good luck x
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Post by MissDesi on Dec 29, 2004 10:45:38 GMT
Thats tough. But he is married now. You can't be unfair to the girl he has married by still seeing him. If anything he had to stand up for ur love by refusing to marry her.
Move on. I know it must be hard but its got to be done.
Good luck.
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Post by Ama on Jan 4, 2005 11:54:35 GMT
fight for it with all you got..dont make the mistake i did..................and spend the rest of your life wondering."what if" and "only if" cease every moment like there is no tommorrow... |
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Post by MissDesi on Jan 4, 2005 13:41:49 GMT
Ama, why should she have to fight to prove her love? shuldn't he have stood up for their reletionship?
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Post by sim on Jan 16, 2005 11:18:20 GMT
yeah true he should have stood up and refused to marry ....( miss india)
but.........its not easy to say NO to the FAMILY ,unless u have been put in that situation only then u will know how hard it is.
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Post by asiansweet on Feb 15, 2005 14:18:19 GMT
u could fight 4 love but u got to fink is it worth it after all u could hurt his and your family
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Post by fantasy on Mar 3, 2005 12:40:45 GMT
oh dear!!!!
just think to ur self!!!mums n dads always wnt u to do things there way!!!but no n i repeat no1 can force u to do anything....so y did he get on dat plane agree to get married n go ahead wid it huh!!!ask ya self man..
if he loved u soo much he wud be a man bt it n say no im not gettin married to ne1 else!!!!maybe he frt ur not worth fightin4!!!!
n dat whole cast thing bollocks..if hes da same religion it duznt mata wt caste dey are
wer all bruvas n sisters!!!!
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Post by fantasy on Mar 3, 2005 12:42:41 GMT
also u gta think now....rit hes married....u dont wnt to damage the marrige they hav gt now DO YOU???
you wudnt like it if it was dun to u!!!
n i think u shud try n move on even tho heel always have a place in ur heart!!!
but now let him have ago at makin HIS marrige wrk!!!
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Post by cheeky gal on Mar 9, 2005 13:20:14 GMT
Fighting for ur love is a beautiful ideal, bt u have to look at it realistically, he's married! He obviously did think he should figth for ur love, so ther is no point u fightin the battle by urself. As hard as it may b, u have it let it go and try to move on with ur life, i know it may not seem like it at the moment but u'll realise that ther is sum1 better out ther 4u, sum1 who was made just 4u!  |
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Post by JaTT on Mar 10, 2005 2:04:38 GMT
hmm allow this case love...if not for anything but his wifes sake...shes innocent in this and no point pursueing him when she going to get hurt and apart from him i doubt shed have someone over here...so let bygones be bygone...
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Post by Ritzy on Mar 15, 2005 13:46:53 GMT
well sed jatt
too late this time babez, leave it
think bout it, if u wer married n ur mans ex was trin to get bak on the scene how wud u feel??? not nice hunna esp since u the innocent one in the panga!
x
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Post by bham da jatt on Apr 2, 2005 19:08:59 GMT
tru...to go after a married man/woman is a defo no go area!
bham da jatt
x
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Post by ~*~rezy~*~ on Apr 15, 2005 20:52:04 GMT
if u want 2 fight 4 ur love, think about da concequences first!!! like ur parents! is it really worth losing ur parents that hav stuck by u thrghout ur life ova anova person?? wat if da relationship doesn't work out? then you'd hav no parents n no lover!! think hard b4 u fight!!! peace! xxxxxxxxxx
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Post by bham da jatt on Apr 16, 2005 15:54:03 GMT
rezy hun, u speak really well yet again!!
some excellent points, thought of the day i think:
"think about the consequences"
so simple but yet so many of us forget them!
take care,
bham da jatt
x
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Post by Desi Tiger on Jun 27, 2005 23:47:08 GMT
Bham da jatt it ezzy to say that but do people stop and actualy think about it...? u tel me we might not have been in that situation i hope i wud never come to that but you gota think of your own happyness at the end of the day not just keep parents and family happy. i dont know i might be wrong thats just what i think.
ezzy
tiger
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Post by bham da jatt on Jun 28, 2005 9:40:07 GMT
khidhaan yaar, hope ur well.
yes totally agree with u that its not easy, but hey...nothing in life is easy.
u say u wish u never have to come across that situation, i hope u n every1 else doesnt either. im sure ppl here have come across that situation, n think u know from my earlier posts that ive been one of them!
it was so hard to come out of, but u do have to think about the consequences. putting ur parents wishes first is not a sacrifice but its a commitement or duty.
i dont regret any of the times ive had in the past. im glad they happened cuz they were the best times of my life, so i live with those sweet memories, and now we move on. do u know what i mean?
so yes, think about the consequences, n dont c it as a sacrifice, but more so as a duty....
take care
bham da jatt!
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Post by Bunnypie on Jul 7, 2005 21:46:00 GMT
Hun, if u luv him enuf then dont giv up...
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Post by walsallkuri on Jul 8, 2005 11:16:22 GMT
honey- ALLOW him- yeah ok u love him and it hurts- but he's married...i know it hard but think how his wife would feel....try put urself in her shoes...most importantly dont disrespect ur parents, they have bought u into this world and love u more than anything- u dont wanna break that bond between u and them. Ok...u have to think way in advance...if u got him...fine you'll be happy, he'll be happy...but ur parents won't be. Then if sumthing happens between u and things don't work out, obviously ul be unhappy which in turn will make ur parents unhappy...in both cases ur parents will be unhappy. Think of them aswell in this situation. Let the dust settle and try and move on...i know it will be hard but there will be sum1 out there who makes u and your family happy...so be positive and go find him!!!xx
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Post by Desi Tiger on Jul 15, 2005 16:12:51 GMT
They say if you want something bad enough u wont stop until u get it but this stuation kinda don beyond dat hun he married yeh he may stil love you you may stil love him but think about the kuri hes married to she his wife ther nuffin u can do bout dat it reality not a bollywood indian film.
i apoligise if u think im being bit harsh but dats wot i think...!!
tc
ezzzy
tiger
xx
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Post by thatdaku on Oct 25, 2005 13:06:17 GMT
in my book if u a sikh than u a sikh, caste dont mean S#!t peeps, why dont peeps understand it was abolished by the gurus, parents who force same caste marriages need 2 look at what the gurus said.
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Post by Bunnypie on Oct 25, 2005 16:28:28 GMT
scarily enough do have to agree with what Thatdaku has just said about being a sikh..... all that Skhi teaches us is that we are all equal....no cast, no race, no religion....
If you love him....then you fight for him.... trust me...im speaking from experience...... if u need 2 tlk then just private message me and i'll be there.
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