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Post by Punjab2000 on Feb 24, 2004 22:21:21 GMT
Desiflychick [guest] Would u ever marry someone from a different race??? Posted 2-5-2004 13:08
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Jus waned to know hansome ricky [guest] marry someone from a different race Posted 2-24-2004 14:15
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- yes, if she was fit.
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Post by Jattibabe on Mar 4, 2004 13:45:25 GMT
yeah coz if we happy then datz wat counts!
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Post by ladooBoy on Mar 5, 2004 21:28:27 GMT
how long for eventually other things take priority friednds family and soon you wish you had not done this !
love n romance only last while u date and maybe a few years after then its all downhill - i should know
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Post by annonamous on Mar 25, 2004 17:00:57 GMT
it shoudnt matter whether the person is of a different race or not,....if u truely love somepne then the "differnce" shouldnt matter to you.But wat really ammuses me is wen some sikhs who beleave in caste n that find it ok to marry outa religion but not outa caste hw pathetic!....some ppl hey !oh well.......
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Post by PUNJABAN on Apr 9, 2004 15:30:39 GMT
everyone knows love only last whilst you are in love, remember love is blind, it takes minutes to fall in love and months to come out of it.
arranged marriages last more then love marriages its just that with arranged your not in love, i would not marry no one from a different caste cos i fink sikh guys are the buffest thing going....... and in my opinion my girls n guys do it to get away from the community.
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Post by SinghNee on Apr 25, 2004 19:44:20 GMT
in reply to PUNJABAN when she says
"and in my opinion my girls n guys do it to get away from the community. "
not quite true as most of the new generation are coconuts anyway so to them colour caste etc means nothing so people view this as going away from the community but to them its just part of the way of life that they have been brought up in including Media influences from TV (all the stupid soaps e.g eastenders etc) that are meant for brain dead folk ! ;D
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Post by miz suga on Jun 20, 2004 13:24:06 GMT
hey nah i wouldnt probs get f**kin killled from my parentz cause were sikhs
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Post by sim on Jul 11, 2004 8:30:51 GMT
I would have, I think?? didn't meet anyone who I really liked who was from another cast.
Arrange marriage wasn't for me, I said NO to parents ( cousin from back home, could not speak a word of english )
Don't think it's the cast what bugs them it's because you won't marry who they say so, ie counsin from back home..
it's funny when they say if you do marry who they say so,and when they come over and that they will set you both up in house or buisness. When you then tell them you already have someone , they then say they don't want anything to do with you ,and say it won't last and give you 6 months ............... bla bla bla bla and you will be back at their door, if you have had this treatment
you will have seen another side of your parents you would have never seen before nasty angry ....
One of my bros has had arrange, he is happy, other is marrying out of the cast, mother found it to be a poblem has now come round, she was worried about the (other people neirbours the net twitchers) what would they say, they have been going out with each other for a really long time!!!!! she is great, she is a human end of the day .
So RESPECT to all who have to gone through hell just to get their say in what happens in their future happiness
My saying is you only live once so live it now and how you want, not as if you have 9 lives then it would be easy,
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Post by mandeep singh on Jul 29, 2004 22:13:40 GMT
hey can saini guy can marry to jatt girl . does caste make any difference
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Post by Tony on Jul 29, 2004 22:38:47 GMT
Mandeep You can marrier her if you want. Sikhism is a castless religion Just pick up any book on Sikhism & it will say the Guru ji's all said that there is NO caste in Sikhi. Only humans.
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Post by Mandeep on Aug 6, 2004 23:57:05 GMT
tony i asked my girl if she want to marry she said she does'nt have any problem. she is jatt and i'm saini. she said her father might said no. my parents are ready ..
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Post by Mandeep on Aug 6, 2004 23:58:11 GMT
tony i asked my girl if she want to marry she said she does'nt have any problem. she is jatt and i'm saini. she said her father might said no. my parents are ready ... what u think what should i do should i go to her father or tell my parents to go to him..
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Post by Lollipop on Sept 17, 2004 19:12:24 GMT
tony i asked my girl if she want to marry she said she does'nt have any problem. she is jatt and i'm saini. she said her father might said no. my parents are ready ... what u think what should i do should i go to her father or tell my parents to go to him.. Mate, if i woz u, i wud go and talk to her parents proply, or get ur missus to do it, coz seriously, religiously u havnt gt a problem, bt sumtimes ppl hold onto pointess fings as barriers, Eg. Caste's, and if ur girls dad is dead set against it, then my sympathy's go out to u,
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Post by bham da jatt on Oct 10, 2004 15:28:10 GMT
there r 2 sides of marriage; uve got the religious points and cultural points.
sorry im not very knowledgable but from what i know, yes u can get married out of race because according to Sikhi we are all equal, made from the same roots - God. so religiously there r no problems. but then we have the cultrual side of things.
sorry but i can only speak for my culture. im a panjabi jatt, n i do have a strong belief in Sikhi too, so where does that leave me?
the simple answer is no i wont get married to any1 but a jatti. my parents mean the world to me, they r amrtihari themselves so one could argue, they shouldnt mind. about 10 years ago (when i was only 11) i asked my mother this question n she told me that u have to look at many things in marriage. one of the points she made was that of habbits. different cultured ppl havin different habbits. i know u might think its not much the case any longer, but still there is a depth of that still there. as well as that the main problem is society. unfortunately we dont get anything from society but we do have to give a lot. if i were to get married to a none-jatti then there would be plently of bad words goin around about me n the way my parents have raised me blah blah blah.
another point is when u go back home, what would be the reaction there?
my ex was a none-jatti. went out with her for over 2 years, been broken up with her since 18 months now n im still not over her. perhaps i gave the relationship too much but still i feel i didnt give her enough. one of the reasons we broke up...caste.
its fair enough ppl that say as long as theres love there it doesnt matter. well ill argue i still love my ex n vice-versa, but no its not ok. we dont think about the long term effects of marriage. fine u might feel to b the happiest person in the world now, but what will it b like tom? yeah that can happen with any girl, but u do need to elimate the rate of unsuccessfullness (hope thats a word).
anyway wont go on anymore, would u conclude that we need to think about the long term as well n not jus always listen to what our heart says. r parents have a lot more experience in life then we do n they always want the best for us even if sometimes we think thats not tru. so listen to them, they wont head u in the wrong direction.
thanks n love x
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Post by Asma on Oct 18, 2004 11:11:49 GMT
hey , wat dus it mata if ur a different cast? my parents wud kill me if dey fount out bout dat bt if u really luv da psn den dus it matta? its nt ur fault u love da psn , luv just hapns, theres no way u canstop luv or start luv... u gt anyfin 2 say mail me on taurus4ever2002@yahoo.com
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Post by amriksingh on Oct 21, 2004 14:13:22 GMT
I wouldn't
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Post by to bham jatt on Nov 10, 2004 18:06:21 GMT
Not to be bad but ur parents are hypocrite f they are khalsa Amritdhari and resort to peer pressure accordnig to Guruji hukums they belong to the Khalsa panth and shud not discriminate between caste! they are generally fake amrits! living for others not for the Khalsa
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Post by bham da jatt on Nov 10, 2004 18:38:53 GMT
excuse me "guest". thanks for ur comments, but mayb next time u should know ppl b4 u make ur niave comments!! apologises...but ppl like u will never get far! we live in this world today, a world that consists of relgion and culture. both of which form part of society. for any1 who trys to live thinkin about themselves solely and not society will never get far.
good luck in ur attempt to live in the FAKE (repeating ur words) world!!!
bham da jatt
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Post by bham da jatt on Nov 10, 2004 18:42:33 GMT
excuse me "guest". thanks for ur comments, but mayb next time u should know ppl b4 u make ur niave comments!! apologises...but ppl like u will never get far! we live in this world today, a world that consists of relgion and culture. both of which form part of society. for any1 who trys to live thinkin about themselves solely and not society will never get far.
good luck in ur attempt to live in the FAKE (repeating ur words) world!!!
bham da jatt
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Post by asian buff gal on Nov 11, 2004 10:24:43 GMT
my parents had arranged marriage and now r going thru divorce they have three kids, my bro's only 7. nxt month i have 2 stand up in court and testify against my dad.i wont make the same mistake as my parents.
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Post by to bham jatt on Nov 14, 2004 11:26:29 GMT
my parents mean the world to me, they r amrtihari themselves so one could argue, they shouldnt mind. about 10 years ago (when i was only 11) i asked my mother this question n she told me that u have to look at many things in marriage. one of the points she made was that of habbits. different cultured ppl havin different habbits. i know u might think its not much the case any longer, but still there is a depth of that still there. as well as that the main problem is society. unfortunately we dont get anything from society but we do have to give a lot. if i were to get married to a none-jatti then there would be plently of bad words goin around about me n the way my parents have raised me blah blah blah.
these were ur comments from before so who is the fake! sorry but if ur parents are amrit they shouldnt believe in caste. In my eyes if u take an amrit u follow it proper. Who cares wot people say its the eyes of god whom you should be worrying about! Is that how sad sikhi has come?
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Post by bham da jatt on Nov 19, 2004 16:47:46 GMT
Well guest if u have a look around with the era we r livin in then i think u can answer that question urself. if my parents were the only ppl that fit into this pic then i wouldnt argue with u, but since they r in the majority, im sorry but i do think ur wrong.
thanks n take care.
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Post by RUPZ on Nov 30, 2004 12:41:50 GMT
WEL IM GOING OUT WITH A PAKI BUT FAMILY DONT KNOW. WE WANA GET MARRIED SO WEN TIME COMES, I'LL DO A LEGGER AND CONVERT. IM PREPARED 4DAT AND HE KNOWS THAT
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Post by Guest on Nov 30, 2004 12:45:38 GMT
yeh i would, if u love someone that much then race, age, religion doesnt matter, my parents totally respect the fact that im a hindu girl who has a muslim boyfriend.
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Post by AMREET on Jan 17, 2005 18:21:52 GMT
i dont tink that i could ever breake my dads heart by doin that b-cuz my parents r amritari and very strict they expect me to mari a sani (into my own cast) also my mum is very munipluative and if i disagree with her (when it cums to religous and culteral belifs) then only god can help me ,she cums out with 'if u want to live under mt roof then u live by my rools' and my dad is to scared to defend me, wats a gal supposed to do !!!
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