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Post by bham da jatt on Jan 17, 2005 21:57:00 GMT
amreet
u need to think about why ur parents say what they say, not jus cuz of keepin their heads up high in society but also to make sure that ur given the best in ur future...they r ur parents, they want the best for u. i think when we get to their age, only then we will realise why that made such decisions.
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Post by amreet on Jan 22, 2005 13:35:45 GMT
bham da jat
i suppose ur rite, thanks thats another way to look at it
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Post by sim on Jan 23, 2005 11:59:07 GMT
yeah u are right ie parents wanting the best for ya of course they do your their child and they love u.
But their way of thinking is the old way, time's have changed, breen born and bred here we have experienced stuff most of them havent, drinking....sex....drugs...ect , and i also feel we are more advanced in life and thinking they ever were.
I guess us being 2nd generation..... Its also made us more openminded about stuff.
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Post by bham da jatt on Jan 23, 2005 12:22:30 GMT
hey sim
of course ur right hun, times have changed n yes i dont deny that mayb a few generations down the line there will only b 1 religion let alone caste. but for the moment, even though things r a lot different from our parents generation (like the things u mentioned eg sex), some things r still the same.
i dont know what u think, but imagine u were a parent in this day n era, how would u react to things ur kids might say to u? ie if they said "i wanna marry out of caste/religion?"
truth is sim we will never know, cuz we're not parents....
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Post by sim on Jan 23, 2005 20:09:34 GMT
hey B'ham da Jatt
Babes, i do understand as i am a parent, what i said its .....i guess my personal view but i am sure other people do share ... and its how i see things.
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Post by bham da jatt on Jan 23, 2005 22:12:18 GMT
hey sim,
so ur a parent, n do u mean to say that lets say ur kids were about 20ish now, would u b fine with them marryin out of caste/religion?
im not sayin every parent would answer "no", but what do u think the percentage is of parents of 20 year-olds at the mo to say yes? n similarly what would u say the percentage would b for parents of 20 year olds 20 yrs down the line?
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Post by sim on Jan 23, 2005 22:57:40 GMT
hey B'ham da Jatt
me babes i dont have a prob, human beings no matter what cast...colour...creed u are, but i know that most parents...... the elders of the family would, im subborn so i would make sure me gets final say ie my child = my decision being right or wrong will go with what ever the child wants. As i have been there but i wasnt brave enough to face my parents, regret it to this day.
I know that the percentage is high of parents now its not even worth hinting or talking to them ,There are a lot of mix marriages now, we have 3 in our family.but 20 years down the line yes i dont think it will be a bigger prob it is today.
life is tooooo short u only given one chance
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Post by bham da jatt on Jan 24, 2005 17:41:55 GMT
hey sim totally agree with a few of the motos u said "life's too short" but we do need to live life for tom as well as today. yes u can say "kal ho naa ho" but at the end of the day every1 thinks about the future, im sure most would agree with that. i also agree that do whats best for ur child, but think what im pointin at is what is actually best for ur child?! as i said above, yes life's too short, n firmly follow a moto of mine: "never live life thinkin in the future u might say IF ONLY...". yes u might have made a decision of forced to make a decision that u regret till today, sorry to hear that, but we dont all get what we want in life, n on times where we dont get what we want actually make us a better person...more quickly. take care
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Post by MissDesi on Jan 24, 2005 17:50:49 GMT
Good points bham da jatt.
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Post by bham da jatt on Jan 24, 2005 18:00:41 GMT
thank u miss desi lol. glad some1 agrees.... i am open to critism. im happy to be proven wrong any1... but i guess some things r more about opinions, n some ppl im sure can b very obstinate
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Post by MissDesi on Jan 24, 2005 18:17:45 GMT
Very tru it is all about opinions at the end of the day , and the one thing that creates and forms out opinions are our life experinces.
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Post by bham da jatt on Jan 24, 2005 18:24:58 GMT
very well said hun, sound very mature for ur age.
to be talkin about life experiences at 18, hope u get far...
take care x
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Post by MissDesi on Jan 24, 2005 18:30:35 GMT
Thnaks , lets just say , ive been through more S#!t than people can releate too lol!
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Post by xxkhanxx on Jan 26, 2005 11:03:33 GMT
hey i fink itz up 2 da person if dey wnt 2 marry cuz love countz n itz gt nufin 2 do wid parentz cuz at da end of da day itz ur life n itz up 2 u juz rememba parentz r alwayz wid u
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Post by asiansweet on Jan 26, 2005 12:07:55 GMT
i wouldnt cuz at first i would i wouldnt wna hurt ma parents ad knwin ma family il be marrin a benglie lad !!!!! respect 2 all da ppl who believe dat know der love will last !!
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Post by bumtingz on Jan 29, 2005 19:53:13 GMT
khan it hw has it gt nuffin t do wit parents??? o they only brought u up all ur life, lukd after u, gave u all da luv n care u need.. etc of corse itz gt sumat t do wit ur parrentz... u hav t respect wat they say.. ye i no dat sum dnt relly undastand n dat... bt dat dnt mean ther pointz dnt count n wen it comz t luv n dat.. u havnt jus gt urself t tink about... u keep in mind ur parentz... wateva u do in life u shud alwayz keep ur parentz in mind
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Post by bham da jatt on Jan 29, 2005 20:37:45 GMT
couldnt put it better myself bumtinz.
we owe it to our parents. yes there would b some parents that might b unfair to their children, but at the end of the day handle the situation the best way u can by keepin a calm head, not by goin all crazy.
take care all x
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Post by xxkhanxx on Feb 1, 2005 11:12:14 GMT
yh am nt tryin 2 say dat itz gt nowt 2 do wid parentz cuz it az wot am tryin 2 say iz dat at de end of da day ur da 1 huez gona get married n nt dem yh
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Post by bham da jatt on Feb 4, 2005 18:54:46 GMT
yes alisha, but we asians generally have close knit families, n we cant think about just ourselves...
so back to the subject title, no i wouldnt...
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Post by PAKI KURI on Feb 7, 2005 11:06:05 GMT
NAH I WUDNT! FIRSTLY CUZ OF MA RELIGION N SECONDLY MA PARENTZ MEAN DA WORLD 2 ME! IM ONLY 16 YET BT MA SIS WHO IZ 18 SHE GT MARRIED 2 SUM NX WHITE GEEZER N MA PARENTZ WNT THROUGH ALOT, I CAN NEVA HURT MA PARENTZ LKE DAT AGEN!!!
SO PPL LISTEN 2 DA BHAM JATT!!
NAD XX
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Post by kidha on Feb 7, 2005 13:37:13 GMT
Hi people, Well this happens to be a very sensitive issue with the level of response there happens to be from many people with many opinions. Im glad to see that people acknowledge the idea that our parents are very important, i mean after all if it wasn't for them and the struggles they faced bringing you up to face the challenges of todays society and seeing wrong from right, we could be anywhere. Our heads shud be firmly screwed on, and we need to realise we need our parents by our side, not to push them away and become isolated but to work alongside them in what you desire. Experiences in life show us to make our decisions, we shud learn 4rm them and become better people and not result in friction with our loved ones ie: our parents, your mother and father who would sacrifice their lives just for your happiness, so in return you shud be able to to sacrifice the bit of selfishness you may have for their happiness.
god bless, love n peace to all x
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Post by bham da jatt on Feb 7, 2005 22:07:40 GMT
nad -
thanks for ur comments, nice to hear from a person with first hand experience.
take care, all the best
raaj x
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Post by bham da jatt on Feb 7, 2005 22:11:51 GMT
hey kidha, nice to read ur comments again.
in a wierd way i agree with u but disagree with u at the same time.
ur probably surprised y i disagree with u, well...
the bit where u say we owe that much sacrifice to our parents, well yes we do i guess, but i dont think thats the reason y we should sacrifice our loves.
i think if our parents tell us that it wont b right, then we shouldnt sacrifice our love but we should respect where they r coming from. do u understand what i mean?
i think its a fine line, n not every1 will understand what im tryin to say.
anyway take care all, urs truely
bham da jatt x
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Post by xxkhanxx on Feb 26, 2005 16:59:37 GMT
i tell u geezerz out der dat alwayz listn 2 ur parentz n if ur nt hapy wid da person u ment 2 gt married den b open 2 ur parentz n xplain dat u luv sum1 else u get me peepz... big up al 2 da PAKIZ ow der
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Post by bham da jatt on Mar 2, 2005 22:47:45 GMT
if u want to hear first hand experience then read the msg "sticky situation" n thats not even for out of race but out of religion, so multiple that by a thousand, i think all ur questions r answered.
take care all
bham da jatt
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