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Post by bham da jatt on Mar 31, 2005 7:35:23 GMT
oh yeah, n can i advice u all to read the sticky situation thread. hopefully that will answer many questions.
yes i know its not like that all the time, but majority...yes!
chao x
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Post by precious on Mar 31, 2005 10:36:42 GMT
morning all!
bham da jatt, would your parents disown you if you wanted to marry sumone of a diff race?
just wandering cos i also have quite strong views about those parents that do. I think those parents that disown their kids have more love for themselves and their position in society than their own children.
And that is a big thing in asian society ie money and status, its all some asians think about. Yeah its good to be successful in life, n have the latest mercedes and all that, but what about love?
whats more important love or status?
I know your gonna say its not about status its about wanting to keep your culture, fair enough.
Ok last question..
whats more important? your childrens HAPPINESS or CULTURE?
Is it better to be in a loveless, cultural, everything the same, boring, marriage OR a loving, i can respect your culture too, and keep mine, marriage?
Im not saying that all same race marriages have no love, but if you end up marrying someone that u dont love when you love someone else thats just asking for a pointless marriage.
Anyway, jatt please answer my q's is poss.
xxx
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Post by Jasi_bham on Mar 31, 2005 11:13:21 GMT
Hey guys I totally agree wiv u precious....ppl who r willin to disown their children their own flesh n blood r an insult to our beliefs!!!! I dont understand them at all....i dont no how they can b willin to sacrifice their kids for their own pride n ur rite our culture is too obsessed wiv their own social standin....thats the bit that lets us all down....this obsessiveness to be the best which is healthy to a degree but not gud wen ur willin to put ur kids on the line for it!!!! I wud personally never disown my own child....regardless of wot they do...i mean if they do sumthin wrong its ur fault....children r the result of their upbrining....so if sum1s upset wiv their child they shud take a look at themselves first!!!! N i dont think my parents wud ever disown me they luv me too much n they no they've raised me rite to make the rite decisions in life n even i do make mistakes they r there to put me bak on track not kick me out on the street!!! Tc luv Jasi
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Post by precious on Mar 31, 2005 11:34:04 GMT
at last sumone i can agree with!
my parents would never disown me either, despite being very cultural and stuck in their ways, they are very loving people and can definately find it in their hearts to love someone of another race and take them into their family as one of their own. Now thats the beauty of mixed marriages
I have no respect for people that are so stuck in their ways and culture that they cant even find love for anyone else.
End of the day were all human, who cares if you eat dhal or blady fish and chips. Its about being able to adapt and accept, theres not only sikhs and asians in this world you know!
Anyway, nice one jassi!
xxxxxx
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Post by bham da jatt on Mar 31, 2005 11:50:36 GMT
whether my parents will disown me or not, well only they can answer that question for u. to some degree i wish they did, cuz they deserve better than that. no but seriously, my parents wont ever disown me, they r the most loving parents in the world (im sure we'll all say that about our own). their kids' happiness mean the world to them, but for the amount of love they having given bhain ji and i, the least we can do is keep their heads up high in society. whats more important is a balance of love n status. something i think we, because of the way my parents have rose me, have done very well. ur last question is the same question just asked in a different way. im sure ull manage to read the answers above for that one, please? hey look, can i revert u back to sticky situation thread n ull get the answers to the rest of ur questions. if there is one word for me to describe marriage its love. what do u think i am? cuz im cultural n religious u dont think i know what love means? ive been broken up with my ex for 23 months now, n if u were to ask her still shed say "he's the most loving guy ever" sorry to be arrogant. my point is ppl can be religious, cultural and yet extremely loving. in fact i think these 3 qualities come together cuz our culture, the one ur dissing, and our religion brings these qualities within us. anyway miss p, ur questions are answered....
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Post by bham da jatt on Mar 31, 2005 11:52:28 GMT
its easier to adapt to ppl that share similar backgrounds to u.
x
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Post by precious on Mar 31, 2005 12:00:17 GMT
exactly its the 'keep their heads up high in society bit i dont agree with'. You gave up what you had with your ex, for your parents happiness in society. I think that is very sad, n i feel very sorry for you, that asian society has got such a hold on your own life and happiness. From what i know your ex was a diff caste right? Thats what makes it even sadder, your parents couldnt even accept their own religion. Why? because of society. Now that is very sad Society will never be happy, they will always criticise you for how much money you have, what your kids are upto, what car you drive, what job you have. If you want to give in to society fair enough, but i will never do that, and hopefully one day my parents will be able to turn their backs on society too, and realise the true essence of life - PEACE!
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Post by DesiBabe on Mar 31, 2005 13:30:08 GMT
Precious, you have voiced your opinion on the subject but why do you continue to make the same points. Just because other's don't share your views, it doesnt mean you should debate your opinion with everyone who disagrees. I've seen you argue with so many people in this site. You seem to have some real beef with those who marry inside their own faith. Theres nothing wrong with it so you should allow it.
If anything all you've proven is that people who date/marry outside their faith, have really disturbing issues and are really insecure inside. If your really happy with the lifestyle you lead then you should be respectful towards other people's choices instead of arguing your case as if it would be beneficial to everyone (which it clearly wouldn't)! You have voiced your opinion and need to call it a day because your getting boring.
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Post by precious on Mar 31, 2005 13:37:55 GMT
nah nah your getting boring. these posts are there to be read, n if i wanna make a reponse i will.
yeah i may have repeated my self, but so have all of you lot.
i dont want others to share my view, thats the last thing i want.
but im not gonna stop posting on the threads until they are no longer on this forum.
i dont just start saying stuff out of the blue you know.
everything i say is in response to what other people are saying. so whats your problem love?
i think your the one thats having trouble accepting that theres sumone that dont share your backward views!
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Post by DesiBabe on Mar 31, 2005 13:39:01 GMT
By the way bham jatt, i think you need to call it a day too. Even though I agree more with you, I think you have fully expressed your opinion and should leave it there as you'll just end up repeating yourself like precious.
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Post by precious on Mar 31, 2005 13:44:05 GMT
WHO are you to tell people to call it a day. I may not agree with bham jatts views but i respect them, at least he can state his opinions in an adult manner. I actually enjoy chatting to peeps like bham jatt cos hes got very conflicting views to me, but i can still listen to whats hes saying and take it on board. Were all entitled to our views so what you going on about eh? lol
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Post by DesiBabe on Mar 31, 2005 13:53:09 GMT
lol thanks for the super quick replay precious, do you live on here or something. Noones has been more boring than you. Its sad how you keep making the same arguments with so many different people who voice their opinions, which usually differ to yours. End of the day, your really have issues.
Anyway its just proves my point, you really do have beef with those who date/marry their own kind. All I can say it get a life gal! People will be doing it here there and everywhere. If you dont want others to share your views why do you keep repeating them like a saddo.
By calling me backward it shows that you really are insecure so thanks for proving my point. Theres nothing wrong with voicing your opinion, but what your doing is basically spamming and is SOOO BORING lol.
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Post by DesiBabe on Mar 31, 2005 13:53:39 GMT
lol thanks for the super quick replay precious, do you live on here or something. Noones has been more boring than you. Its sad how you keep making the same arguments with so many different people who voice their opinions, which usually differ to yours. End of the day, your really have issues.
Anyway its just proves my point, you really do have beef with those who date/marry their own kind. All I can say it get a life gal! People will be doing it here there and everywhere. If you dont want others to share your views why do you keep repeating them like a saddo.
By calling me backward it shows that you really are insecure so thanks for proving my point. Theres nothing wrong with voicing your opinion, but what your doing is basically spamming and is SOOO BORING lol.
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Post by DesiBabe on Mar 31, 2005 14:00:38 GMT
Who are you to keep posting like a freak? Aint you got anything better to do, you saddo lol. You can post till you die for all I care, I just sayin its getting boring hearing the same stuff. The only reason I said Bham Jatt to call it a day was so your would stop this pathetic question/answer session becos its only for you two, not the rest of the readers!
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Post by bham da jatt on Mar 31, 2005 14:01:53 GMT
can i just quickly interupt u 2 girls please....lol
babe, i do agree with u, n in all honesty i hate repeating myself too, n i do get frustrated as uve probs noticed in having to use my same answers.
anyway, yes i do this precious seems to have things against ppl marryin in the same race, but again...as ive said before i think its cuz she's done it herself n now shes trying to reason it.
im sorry i cant return the compliement precious. i certainly like to discuss things with u, but i dont respect ur opinions at all cuz i think they r just too umm...silly?
anyway, u live ur life the way u want to as we all will live our lives. im happy to marry a sikh jatt girl, n i dont look down on ppl like u at the same time....
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Post by precious on Mar 31, 2005 14:04:12 GMT
its boring to you love cos you cant listen to other peoples views or respect them. i havent got a prob with same race marriages, i think they are great if they are out of love, but not if they are due to backward asian people such as yourself. everyone may not agree with me, but so what, thats not what im trying to achieve. I just wanna say what i wanna say. if people dont agree with me why dont they just not reply to what im saying. it goes both ways honey, i think you need to get a life and not get so defensive. im open to anyones opinions, n ive taken a lot of abuse too, but i can still get my point across, unlike you who has to resort to racist jibes! i THINK YOU need to get a life, lol
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Post by DesiBabe on Mar 31, 2005 14:18:12 GMT
I respect peoples opinions but what you don't get is that your being well repetitive and repetition is BORING! lol if you havent got a prob with same race marriages, why were you saying I have backward views just becos they differ from yours. Btw plenty of people have ignored what you have written, I'm going to be part of them myself. I just think you are becoming so sad that it needs sayin... but don't worry I aint sad enough myself to be arguing with every person who doesn't share the sameviews as me
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Post by Jasi_bham on Mar 31, 2005 14:24:38 GMT
Guys ur makin me laff ;D!!! Where all the b***hiness come from!!1 Wot happened to respecting every1s views....look we r not all here to agree wiv eachova n there is no perfect view on nething.....u shud all do wot ur comfortable doin n wot u thinks rite....its no point makin petty remarks bout eachother....n wots with the GET A LIFE....we r not 5 yrs old agen n fightin in the playground ova sum swings!!! I think we all need to just chill n let ppl do wot they want to as long as ur happy wiv wots happenin in ur life y shud some1 elses choices bother u sooo much!!! So whos immature now....jatt n dont call sum1 elses views silly cos at the end of the day u r not always rite!!! (even if u r most of the tym) Tc guys n everyone have a cold shower n cool off!!! Love Jasi
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Post by precious on Mar 31, 2005 14:25:34 GMT
thats the point of forums racistcbabe, you voice your opinions, people may not agree with you, but thats life.
if we all stopped arguing what we believed in this forum would be extreeamly boring.
end of the day new people are joining the forum every day n they al gonna want to comment on the issues, some may even comment on what ive said. If peeps are gonna question my beliefs i'm gonna explain myself, thats all im doing.
anyway i aint got no beef with you, your welcome to say what u want, even if it is racist.
xxxx
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Post by DesiBabe on Mar 31, 2005 14:31:51 GMT
Lol theres a ting called making your argument and letting other's voice their opinions without being debated by the likes of you! No one seems to be interested in what you are saying. Noone has to answer to you, your so self centered and insecure. People have voiced their opinion and have moved on but ur too sad for that innit
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Post by DesiBabe on Mar 31, 2005 14:35:56 GMT
Anyways I aint got the time to comment on childish reponses... lets just agree to disagree...I'm out of here peace
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Post by precious on Mar 31, 2005 14:36:54 GMT
now whose repeating themselves, lol! nuff said!
ive always said what ive gotta say, n let others do the same.
yeah i argue, but so do you, you disgree with everything i say as well. Your disagreeing with me now!
what your saying racistbabe is very pointless, dont you think.
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Post by DesiBabe on Mar 31, 2005 18:08:46 GMT
Lol thats rich.. u saying nuff said. You never shut up. Where have I repeacted myself in here? Your the broken record! U practically live on here waiting for people's comments. Sounds like your a proper computer net geek. I havent disagreed with you. I've just voiced my opinion and made observations about how you need to chill and stop being so argumentative and allow peoples views that appose urs. Sounding like a broken record with all the repeating you do is boring so plz buy urself a life saddo. Racisitbabe? Lol how childish, you ned to grow up too!
Bham Jatt is right, seems like your just trying to reason with yourself. Can't you just do that in the mirror, or do you luk to scary lol.
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Post by bham da jatt on Mar 31, 2005 19:06:15 GMT
racistbabe was very childish, i expected better from u than that hun.
u know what, ive said this on another thread long time ago. please dont bit*h with one another and dont repeat urself.
stick to the topic title, if uve already said it then shut up.
hope u can both agree with me on that one, im sure desibabe will, will u p?
so lets conclude this debate here:
desibabe - i think ur answer was u wont get married out of race bham da jatt - no way precious - nothing wrong.
FULL STOP!!!
bham da jatt
x
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Post by Pure Buff Jatt on Mar 31, 2005 21:25:23 GMT
Ha it looks like Precious (aka Voodoo Preacher) is rustling up some more feathers. I can't believe she is still posting in the same thread...how pathetic. How many ways can you say the same thing? She clearly aint got much else to do but bit*h. She actually does a better job bit*hing than she does making a decent point. That says it all lol.
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