wolves gyals [guest]
MUSLIM AND SIKH MARRIAGES - RIGHT OR WRONG? Posted 3-8-2003 23:13
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hey there people! wot do you guyz think about muslim and sikh people marrying one another? i hav a friend who loves her muslim man, he luvs her too - one problem though.....the parents!!! both families are gonna be well vexed, wot do they do?
isnt it all gud if they luv each other?? isnt that wots important? help!
Punjabi [guest]
religion Posted 3-16-2003 13:06
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Yes we are all human beings. We are all made of the same stuff but we create barriers between each other because of many things like race, colour of skin, country and religion.
We think that we are doing our religion proud by putting down other religions and making out that we are the best. Sometimes we say or do things just to impress others.
But if we ever bother to actually look into our religions at all, just to try and understand what the Guru Granth Sahib has got written in it we will see it tells us that we are all made by the same supreme being called God. It makes you realise how stupid we are when we try to separate ourselves from others because of things like religion. All religions say exactly the same things but we are too stupid to understand.
If we believe that our religion is correct and true then we should try to act upon what it says. Sikhism tell us that all religions should be respected beucase they all orginate from the same God. How on earth can we think we are doing our people proud then when we put other religions down.
There are countless amounts of stories in sikhism that deal with this issue but we choose to ignore them and make our own stupid rules about what to do.
The truth is that we have lost all respect for our Gurus.
Punjabi [guest]
Muslim and sikh marraiges Posted 3-16-2003 13:36
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My view point on mied marraiges is this:
I am no great religious man but I have never come across any thing in Sikhism that says you cannot marry other religions. So religion wise I think there is nothing wrong with it what so ever.
The difficulty lies culturally.
Whether you like it or not, by marrying in another religion you WILL be sacrificing things possibly such as language, customs, traditions, ways of gettings married, how to act in certain situations etc.
If these things don't matter to you then i think mixed marraige is not a problem. But if they do then it will cause major problems.
I was in a mixed marraige but now i am going through a separation. It's a nasty process that now should have to go through.
When I got married I realised I was going against the grain but i thought i was doing it for the right reasons.
My ex was not prepared to try and understand my customs/traditions/language. I realised that these things meant a hell of a lot to me. I think Punjabi is a wicked language, our people are wicked, our ways of doing things is wicked, our country is wicked, out families are wicked.
(I know not of all of our traditions are good and we should try to stop certain things such as dowry etc.)
She did not share these opinions with me and it caused major conflicts.
When i got married i thought i would be able to balance eveything and keep things good but i was unable to and i couldn't live the rest of my family with someone who was in total conflict with my beliefs, and then also bring children in to such a environment. I would want my kids to be taught what i belive is true and good.
At the end of the day all these conflicts that i talk about could just as easily occur in a normal sikh to sikh marraige. You could deal with this normally but in a mixed marraige you get the external pressure from other people.
It is a difficult decision but tell your mate think hard about it. It's not about religion but about everything else i think.
Thnig with muslims is i think they insist on girls converting to islam when getting married to their sons. Thats cool if you want to do that because it is a religion that bows down to the same god that we do.
BUT do you really want to give away everything that sikhism has given to you and so much more that it can give to you. I hope no sikh would feel the need to convert in to any other religion because we have such an awesome history it is unbelievable. It makes your blood boil when reading our history and i hope that my respect for it will only grow and I that never turn away from it.